Free-Range Rites of Passage

May 06, 2015 by Christine Hoff Kraemer

Continued from Page 1

I hope that we will find support for our parenting through friends, alternative schools, scouting, or other groups who haven't forgotten that becoming an adult requires a gradual loosening of protection and a willingness to let children take risks. One such friend is my colleague Niki Whiting, who designed a "five-year ritual" for her son just before he began formal schooling. The experience was designed to challenge the little boy, and he did indeed find the experience somewhat frightening: he was asked to jump over a fire, something he had never done before. Afterward, however, he shone with pride at his success; his ability to overcome his fear in the ritual circle helped him when he felt anxious in ordinary situations, as when approaching a teacher or a clerk at a store.

This kind of ritual innovation is what Pagans need to prepare for the future — as perhaps all of us do, living in these changing times. Someday I will tell my son, as he climbs on his bike, "See you later, come home before dark!"

What rite will we create to celebrate his competence and grant him that freedom? I can't wait to find out.

Page: 2 of 2

5/6/2015 4:00:00 AM

Rites of Passage

Public Square

Children

Faith

Family

Parenting

Tradition

Transition

Paganism

more at patheos

Did You Like Trump's Birthday Party? You Paid for It.

Rebecca Hamilton

Some easily demonstrated falsehoods

Dan Peterson

Growing Disciples in a Fractured World

Rob Giannamore

Holy Week Services For the Archdiocese of Washington

William Hemsworth

About

Patheos Logo Patheos Explore the world's faith through different perspectives on religion and spirituality! Patheos has the views of the prevalent religions and spiritualities of the world.

Ad-Free & Subscriber Log-In Subscription Support

Subscription Support Ad-Free & Subscriber Log-In

Follow Patheos