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The Naked Mystic: Enjoying Each Other

The Naked Mystic: Enjoying Each Other

Last updated on: August 13, 2012 at 10:21 am by David Matthew Brown

The Naked Mystic: Enjoying Each Other 2012-08-13T10:21:39-06:00 David Matthew Brown

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Question, Naked mystic, How can my girlfriend and I just enjoy each other?

The world seems to want each us to be happy and the happiness comes from possessions. We are told that we can meet the one, they are out there somewhere, a perfect match. Now each of us knows many couples who are very happy, but individually they feel incomplete and so their relationships seem to based on the Jerry Mcguire syndrome, “You complete me.” Unconditional love is sharing, caring, patient, and filled laughter, but within that is the recognition that both parties are whole and complete as they are.

I feel like the one we are searching for is ourselves. We have been looking for ourself out there and forgot that the work, effort is here with ourselves. If we are frightened of the work here, we project, try to change, fix, blame the other person for not being whole, and yet all the things we are speaking about them, is really something not looked at within. I know it sounds weird and in fact when my teachers tried to explain this logic, I became dismissal, and laughed out loud, but soon you will discover that if you are really connected to being whole in yourself, then the communication and sharing is different. You really begin to live a life from appreciation. Appreciation comes from knowing your own wholeness. Whether you find the wholeness you connected to nature, universe, God, Allah, etc…but we all are searching for a connection to the whole and then once we find it we understand beyond the intellect our wholeness. That is why this path is less taken. People want a quickie if you will, a quick fix to wholeness. But once you understand your wholeness, that has a huge responsibility that comes with it. So it takes time for the faith to build in the ultimate reality, and that is okay.

If I have found freedom within, then in a relationship I don’t need, expect, or demand for you to change, I enjoy you now. I enjoy you as you are. I am patient, caring, understanding, and laugh tons. Two whole people just enjoying without limits, without intervention, without you needing anything or needing me to change, just enjoying. When you are gone I enjoy this life, when we are together we enjoy our company. An ebb and flow. No more nonsense. If in fact you are going through something, we both acknowledge that I can be there for you and listen, but we both understand that you are going through the experience and it is part of your journey. And because of that, we understand that it is not to be put on the other, and criticize; in fact the opposite, we give each other space, and love, and pray for wisdom, because we see that our relationship is the relationship of wholeness and so the Holy spirit brought us together. Your intellect will never understand this. Healing is patient.

Each of us is currently making a transition from the mind to the heart. We are being asked now, to be with everything that is coming up within us that doesn’t serve us anymore. No more dating hundreds of people to escape ourself, no more sleeping around, no more dumping your life on others to fix, no more blame, criticizing, or relationship after relationship; just whole people living in harmony with each other. Appreciate yourself as the song of the soul.

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David Matthew Brown

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