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The Gift of Tears – Hugh Hollowell

The Gift of Tears – Hugh Hollowell

Last updated on: May 18, 2011 at 1:44 am by wildgoosefestival

The Gift of Tears – Hugh Hollowell 2011-05-18T01:44:27-06:00 wildgoosefestival

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Several years ago, I was speaking at an event. It was a large secular audience, so I gave my mostly secular talk. In that talk, I mentioned I run a faith based organization. I also used the example of gay marriage as a way that relationships change how we feel about “the other.” That is really all I said about gay marriage, or homosexuality or really, anything about my own faith.

(You can pause now and watch this talk, if you’d like. I’ll wait.)

When I got finished with my talk, I made a beeline for the bathroom (nerves, you know). I’m standing at the sink, washing my hands when a guy walks in and over to me.

“Are you gay?” he asks.

I tell him I’m not.

“But gay homeless people – you help them, right?”

I tell him I do.

“And you’re a Christian, right?”

“Right.”

He looks me dead in the eye and says “I did not know you could be Christian and help gay people”.

Over the next few minutes, standing in that bathroom, he tells me how his family has ostracized him because he came out to them. How they are very religious and because of them, he no longer wants anything to do with the church.

“I hate the church. After everything they have done to me and my friends, I can’t stand their hypocrisy and their self-righteous attitude.”

I told him I did not blame him a bit. He asked if he could hug me. I said yes.

In that bathroom, with tears in both our eyes, he hugs me and says thank you for being willing to help everybody, including gay people. He turns and walks for the door.

Hand on the door, he turns back and says “You know, it’s strange. I hate the church. You can’t pay me to go back there. But I really miss Jesus.”

Then he turned, pushed through the door and was gone.

* * *

I think about that guy a lot. When I catch flack for helping and loving everyone without preconditions, I remember him and the gift of his tears drying on my shirt as I walked out of that bathroom. And I remember that while he hated the church, he missed Jesus.

Which is why, when Gareth Higgins asked me if I wanted to be part of the team for the Wild Goose Festival, I had a lot of questions. Questions about who is welcome, and who gets to talk and if there would be room for people who hate the church but miss Jesus.

This June, a bunch of us are meeting in Shakori Hills, North Carolina (just about an hour outside Raleigh-Durham). We are throwing a three day art, music and justice festival, rooted in the Christian tradition and welcome to everyone. Especially to people who miss Jesus, but have problems with some of his followers.

Hugh Hollowell is a writer, speaker and bootleg preacher based in Raleigh, NC. He is the founder and director of Love Wins Ministries, where they tackle the problems of homelessness by focusing on relationships, not outcomes.

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