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November 2019

November 13, 2019

Everything You’re Doing Needs Both Passion and Perseverance

There are two equal and necessary parts to every human activity. If we want to...

November 11, 2019

Reflections on Veterans Day

The Bible says there is no greater love than this: that a man lays down...

November 08, 2019

Top 3 Reasons You Fight With Your Spouse

We love them. We have committed to them. We share life with them every day....

November 01, 2019

What Will You Do With An Extra Hour?

We have a woman in our community group who is fond of lamenting, “We made...

October 2019

October 30, 2019

Halloween and The 2 Kinds of Fear

We never celebrated Halloween when I was growing up. My parents just felt weird about...

October 25, 2019

The Value of Practice

Kylie and I were playing on a softball team last summer. The season was interrupted by the...

October 23, 2019

Pick Your Metaphor

Kylie and I have some friends who are really into sports, like me. And it...

October 16, 2019

Life’s Not Fair…Thank God!

Every child at some point makes the claim that life is not fair. And if...

October 09, 2019

Naming the Villains

We are in a hurry to name villains. We want to call out bad behavior...

October 07, 2019

Our Fake World

Almost everything about our world is fake. We are careful to make it so. The...

October 04, 2019

We Can Fix This

We humans have worked ourselves into a very specific narrative. When things are happening to...

October 02, 2019

Who Are You Willing To Follow?

We are all trying to lead. We want to be the boss. The one in...

September 2019

September 30, 2019

How to Heal Together Rather Than Break Apart

There is nothing more challenging than the onslaught of pain. Healing is a difficult and...

September 27, 2019

The Humility Trap

I’ve heard my whole life that I need to be humble. I’ve read all of...

September 25, 2019

Do You Need Rest or A Kick in The Pants?!

Have you ever spent a day just doing “nothing”. You know, the days where you...

September 23, 2019

When is Conflict Okay?

We spend most of our lives avoiding pain. Anything we can do to sidestep suffering,...

September 18, 2019

The Shape of the Past

Our pasts are as complicated as our present. Maybe even more. What we have been...

September 16, 2019

The Evolution of Romance: Spark to Commitment

There are two kinds of things we are talking about when we use the word...

September 13, 2019

How to Make Sense of Our Distractions

There are few things humans do quite as well as distraction. We set out to...

September 11, 2019

How You Can Overcome Tragedy

There are only two options when a tragedy strikes; it can strengthen relationships or destroy...

September 09, 2019

How to Make the Most Out of Traveling Together

There is nothing quite like traveling together. For most couples, it gives a focused time...

September 06, 2019

What if My Vision is Wrong?

There are all kinds of things that slow our progress, halt our growth, and interrupt...

August 2019

August 26, 2019

Communicating Value

We have a pair of friends who have been together for a long time. They...

August 23, 2019

The Difference Between Acceptance and Approval

We live in a world of extremes. The middle ground is losing ground. Whether it...

August 14, 2019

The Doing Gap

The Book of James talks about a man looking at his face in the mirror...

August 12, 2019

What Really Matters?

We have become experts at avoidance. Our ability to avoid is so thorough and so...

August 09, 2019

Just a Little Scared

We recently went to the doctor for a yearly check up and found out my...

August 07, 2019

Belonging is a Two-Way Street

We often talk about how much we want to belong. There is a clear desire...

August 05, 2019

How Does This All Fit?!

A couple days ago, we started a puzzle on the kitchen table. We’ve written before...

August 02, 2019

I’m Out of Control!

The myth of control is perhaps the most common idol. It is everywhere. We try...