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January 2022

January 18, 2022

Listening to Others

I used to think the primary goal for my life was to be heard. To...

October 2021

October 14, 2021

Where Have All the Shepherds Gone?

Nobody wants to be a sheep. It is one of the most pungent accusations we...

September 2021

September 30, 2021

Power Dynamics

Power is, well, a powerful thing. The way we think about, pursue, and use power...

September 16, 2021

How Oliver Got His Name

All of us are striving to be people of power. What we really want with...

August 2021

August 05, 2021

The Discipline of Improvement (Pillars of Growth)

When it comes to the actual practice of making one’s life better, it is hard...

February 2021

February 09, 2021

How Things that Affect Me Impact The Way I Affect Things

I realize the title is a mouthful, so you have either decoded it or are...

November 2020

November 17, 2020

Why I’ve Stopped Trying to Change the World

I was reading a commentary on The Book of Proverbs a few days ago and...

November 10, 2020

Sacrifice and Service

When I was a teenager, I went to Mexico on a mission trip with our...

June 2020

June 04, 2020

Navigating Your Own Biases

I was shocked this week to hear a group of adults claim they were perfectly...

February 2020

February 18, 2020

The Role of the President

With Presidents’ Day coming to a close and the election cycle reaching its climax this...

November 2019

November 11, 2019

Reflections on Veterans Day

The Bible says there is no greater love than this: that a man lays down...

July 2019

July 08, 2019

How to Lead Your Boss

We often think that wielding power and leading are synonymous. It might be most proper...

June 2019

June 03, 2019

How to Make a Choice

I was reading a book recently that talked about Adam and Eve’s choice in the...

May 2019

May 27, 2019

How to Recognize What Is Influencing You

A few days ago, two things happened in the same hour that caused me to...

April 2019

April 01, 2019

April Fool’s Might Be Good For You

It's a strange and perverse sort of joy we get from April Fools Day. It...

March 2019

March 04, 2019

The Greatest Obstacle to Utilizing Influence

We all want to live a life of purpose. We want to empower our institutions...

February 2019

February 15, 2019

The Flow Of Influence And The Power Of Perspective

One thing that fundamentally shapes how we think, feel, and believe is our perspective on...

November 2018

November 23, 2018

How To Reclaim Control Of Your Life

Every day we wake up and log in to a game. The game is called control....

November 09, 2018

Why People Watching is Vital to Human Development

It’s a practice New Yorkers know well. People watching. It’s easier to name in big...

October 2018

October 24, 2018

Why Influence Is More Powerful Than Position

There are a lot of different ways to do leadership. The arena is vast and...

October 17, 2018

The Lost Potential of the Mission Statement

I’m sitting in a Brooklyn coffee shop today. It is a typical place. Trendy; busy....

October 05, 2018

How to Change Culture

When we think about culture, we often think about some alien force that has inhabited...

October 03, 2018

Everyone is a Leader

When we think about the word leader, we often think about it as a prize....

September 2018

September 05, 2018

5 Ways to Tell if You are Motivated by Fear or Hope

There are two major motivators lurking in the hearts of mankind: fear and hope. It...

August 2018

August 10, 2018

How Our Increasingly Transactional Culture is Undermining Relationships

With maxims like ‘what’s in it for me’, ‘I’ll scratch your back if you scratch...

August 03, 2018

How Choosing Your Attitude Can Change Your Life

As one of the three things we can control, choosing an attitude is a vital part...

July 2018

July 04, 2018

Are You Living Like A King?

Recently, a friend pointed out just how much we live like kings. In a world...

June 2018

June 27, 2018

Why Would You Want to Bring a Baby Into This World?!

My wife and I have been trying to get pregnant for well over a year,...

June 13, 2018

So You Wanna Be An Alpha?

We all want to be ‘top dog’. We fight and scratch and claw to get...

June 11, 2018

Why Taking Responsibility is Vital for Leadership

Perhaps the greatest obstacle for leaders is a mental one. We fight so hard for positional...