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December 2021

December 02, 2021

Outsourcing Turmoil

In a world where we value control so much it is an assumed obsession, why...

November 2021

November 02, 2021

Weep and Worship

Our first IVF cycle recently failed and we have received an abundance of well-wishes from...

July 2021

July 08, 2021

The Foolishness of Dating Revenge

I grew up a country music fan, so I get the appeal of breakup revenge....

June 2021

June 01, 2021

Time and Chance

I have spent the better part of my life trying to figure out how this...

April 2021

April 27, 2021

My Agency in My Own Safety

There are few things as hotly contested in today’s world than the idea of personal...

March 2021

March 23, 2021

An In-Between Life

I have been working recently on a science fiction novel–the White Whale of my writing...

March 09, 2021

Vats and Storehouses: The Key to Abundance and Content

I am currently working on a commentary of The Book of Proverbs for thebiblesays.com and...

March 05, 2021

How Uncertainty Invites Us Into Clarity

My friend recently introduced me to The Twilight Zone. The original ones from the early...

February 2021

February 18, 2021

How to Become the Chooser

There is a great tension in every human soul between what happens to us and...

January 2021

January 07, 2021

Why More Really is the Answer

More gets a bad wrap. People like me are always writing and raving about the...

December 2020

December 22, 2020

Confused and Frustrated

What a year it has been. What a life we live. What a world. One...

November 2020

November 17, 2020

Why I’ve Stopped Trying to Change the World

I was reading a commentary on The Book of Proverbs a few days ago and...

October 2020

October 22, 2020

The Value of Uncertainty

A few days ago, I was at a bookstore browsing titles having to do with...

August 2020

August 18, 2020

How Your Attempts to Control Are Controlling You

We want things to work out the way we want them to. That is human...

July 2020

July 14, 2020

Control: My Fear and My Obsession

When I think about my attitude about control, I kind of feel like a crazy...

July 02, 2020

How Are You Spending Your Freedom?

With the celebrations of July 4th looming, many Americans are contemplating what it means to be...

June 2020

June 23, 2020

What To Do When Circumstances Attack

It's a strange time to be alive. There are so many things that are outside...

April 2020

April 03, 2020

The Epicenter of Pandemic: COVID-19

One of the things we are hearing in the midst of this pandemic is people...

March 2020

March 31, 2020

The Difference Between Letting Go and Losing Control

Like so many things in life, there is a fine balance between letting go of our need...

November 2019

November 25, 2019

The Opportunity of Gratitude

It is not that hard to be thankful. Sure things can be tough. Life is...

October 2019

October 04, 2019

We Can Fix This

We humans have worked ourselves into a very specific narrative. When things are happening to...

August 2019

August 30, 2019

Why We Fear Change

Change is the best and worst thing about being human. Everything is so wonderfully unstable....

August 02, 2019

I’m Out of Control!

The myth of control is perhaps the most common idol. It is everywhere. We try...

July 2019

July 26, 2019

The Illusion of Completeness

For most of my life, I have been chasing a finish line. One of the...

June 2019

June 19, 2019

You Want Control? You Got It!

We all want control. The reason we are frustrated, the reason we make mistakes, and...

June 10, 2019

What’s Holding You Back?

I was watching one of those shows recently where people have to go through a...

March 2019

March 13, 2019

It Is Hard to Be a Human

It has been a hard week in the Willis house. I like to think we...

March 08, 2019

How to Escape The Victim Circle

The Two Circles are about the blurred lines between freedom and control. In our attempts to...

January 2019

January 14, 2019

What Truly Motivates You?

In this season of new beginnings, all of us are contemplating change to one degree...

December 2018

December 31, 2018

How to Exercise Self-Control

We live in New York City and almost every day, there is a news story...