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August 2021

August 24, 2021

Reminded of My Own Fragility

Sometimes it seems like I am just a house of cards, one stiff breeze away...

August 03, 2021

The Danger of Just Getting By

Many of us, either by intention or perceived necessity, have adopted a certain strategy for...

June 2021

June 10, 2021

The Allure of Self-Sacrifice

There are few things as fascinating as the reality of self-sacrifice. Most of our movies,...

April 2021

April 27, 2021

My Agency in My Own Safety

There are few things as hotly contested in today’s world than the idea of personal...

January 2021

January 26, 2021

The Truth Behind Our Creative Expressions

As a writer, I generally consider myself a creative person. I think all of us...

August 2020

August 25, 2020

Reconciling Two Concepts of Time

My wife and I have spent a lot of time in a lot of foreign...

November 2019

November 06, 2019

You’re Already Persevering, Just Poorly

We give up too easily. It is well documented that our instant-gratification, technology-driven society does...

September 2019

September 11, 2019

How You Can Overcome Tragedy

There are only two options when a tragedy strikes; it can strengthen relationships or destroy...

July 2019

July 26, 2019

The Illusion of Completeness

For most of my life, I have been chasing a finish line. One of the...

April 2019

April 08, 2019

The Difference Between Disappointed and Violated

It seems pretty clear that modern Americans are unable to deal with not getting their...

March 2019

March 11, 2019

We Waste So Much Time

We roll out of bed in the morning and a good chunk of our day...

February 2019

February 13, 2019

Why Are We Becoming More Dependent On Our Institutions?

I’ve noticed an interesting phenomena in today’s world. It seems like we are becoming increasingly...

January 2019

January 23, 2019

The Value of Consequences

The truth is, we don’t like consequences. At least, we don’t like the ones we...

December 2018

December 03, 2018

How to Widen Boundaries While Maintaining Discipline

It is difficult to establish boundaries. Whether for ourselves, like in implementing an exercise regiment,...

September 2018

September 07, 2018

Responsibility, Control, and When to Let Go

We humans have an uncanny ability. Somehow, we try to control too much. At the...

August 2018

August 29, 2018

The Difference Between A Rest Day and An Off Day

It’s been a long workweek. You’re tired and in need of some rest. Saturday is quickly approaching....

August 03, 2018

How Choosing Your Attitude Can Change Your Life

As one of the three things we can control, choosing an attitude is a vital part...

July 2018

July 23, 2018

The Liberating Process of Setting Boundaries for Myself

Freedom is an important value for all of us. We were not meant to be...

July 02, 2018

5 Hallmarks of Freedom

This week, America prepares to celebrate the values of freedom and democracy that have defined...

June 2018

June 22, 2018

Nobody Wants to Sin: How Our Desire For Good Can End in Evil

None of us sets out to do bad. Nobody longs for bad things. We are...

May 2018

May 11, 2018

5 Ways to Find and Sustain Motivation

As a writer, one of the things I struggle with is motivation. One of the...

May 07, 2018

How to Help A Co-Dependent Tarzan

It is really hard to love people. Sometimes they just need an ear and sometimes...

April 2018

April 11, 2018

Balance is the Key to Everything

When I think about my life, there are few things that seem more important than...

April 04, 2018

Am I Willing to Die for the Things I Live for?

Adventure travel and extreme sports are becoming more and more popular in our culture. People...

April 02, 2018

How to Find More Time

It has to be the most used excuse for why we cannot do something. I don’t...

March 2018

March 30, 2018

The Frightening Process of Empowering Our Kids

Parenting is enough to drive anyone crazy. Trying to raise good kids is an almost...

March 07, 2018

How Personal Boundaries Can Expand your Freedom

We typically view boundaries as a hindrance to our freedom. We define freedom in terms...