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October 2018

October 22, 2018

How Our Perspective on Community Has Gone Off The Rails (and How to Fix It)

The world is a diverse and complicated place full of diverse and complicated people. We...

October 10, 2018

Humility And Pride: What We Get Wrong and How To Do It Right

From early childhood, we start receiving mixed messages about both humility and pride. We are...

October 01, 2018

How To Learn From Your Mistakes

It happens everyday. We mess up. We make mistakes. Imperfect people make imperfect choices. We...

September 2018

September 26, 2018

Why Your Choices Matter

Every day, we face a myriad of choices. They flash and jump and shout in...

September 17, 2018

Rejection is a Refining Fire

Deeply seeded in each of us is a fear of rejection. We wear it on...

September 10, 2018

The Path to Healing

Pain hurts. It is unpleasant. A digging kind of sorrow. A nagging sort of torture....

September 07, 2018

Responsibility, Control, and When to Let Go

We humans have an uncanny ability. Somehow, we try to control too much. At the...

August 2018

August 31, 2018

The Fear of Death

As we journey through the vast terrains of life, a pilot emerges. The thing driving...

August 29, 2018

The Difference Between A Rest Day and An Off Day

It’s been a long workweek. You’re tired and in need of some rest. Saturday is quickly approaching....

August 22, 2018

There is No Rescue From The Arena of Circumstances

When painful circumstances strike, we all have the same initial impulse. We’ve got to fix...

August 20, 2018

3 Ways to Get Out of a Funk

It happens to all of us. Life is flying by, swirling around us at a...

August 15, 2018

Searching for Narnia in New York City

I’ve been searching for Narnia my whole life. When I was a kid, my parents...

August 13, 2018

How Fear Scares Away Hope

We have been trying to get pregnant for the better part of eighteen months. To...

August 03, 2018

How Choosing Your Attitude Can Change Your Life

As one of the three things we can control, choosing an attitude is a vital part...

August 01, 2018

How Selfishness Destroys Relationships

Relationships are essential to human living. We find (or inherit) people who become close to...

July 2018

July 27, 2018

Why “More” Will Never Be Enough

John Rockefeller, a billionaire in the early 1900’s, was asked, “how much money is enough?”...

July 20, 2018

How a Little Newness Can Transform Your Perspective

We moved to New York City two years ago. It has been nothing short of...

July 18, 2018

Seeing Job in the Mirror

It’s been a challenging week for us. The circumstances seem to be piling up. We...

July 11, 2018

Why Is It So Important For Me To Get A Great Photo?

While watching a World Cup game recently, I was struck by how often the people in the...

July 09, 2018

The Dangerous Habit of Self-Talk

We all do it. Nobody really admits to it, except maybe in passing as a...

July 06, 2018

The Curse of Knowledge

It is very difficult for a person to truly consider the perspective of others. Since truth...

June 2018

June 27, 2018

Why Would You Want to Bring a Baby Into This World?!

My wife and I have been trying to get pregnant for well over a year,...

June 22, 2018

Nobody Wants to Sin: How Our Desire For Good Can End in Evil

None of us sets out to do bad. Nobody longs for bad things. We are...

June 18, 2018

We See What We’re Looking For

Living in New York, there is no shortage of things to see. Too much, really....

June 15, 2018

Harness Expectations Before They Bury You

The development of expectations is natural and inevitable. Our entire lives are a pile of...

June 13, 2018

So You Wanna Be An Alpha?

We all want to be ‘top dog’. We fight and scratch and claw to get...

June 01, 2018

How Diverse Perception Can Edify Rather Than Destroy

Last night, we went to a Yankees game here in NYC. There were a handful...

May 2018

May 23, 2018

To Have and Have Not: A Journey of Perspective

My wife and I have struggled with infertility and a miscarriage over the last eighteen months. As...

May 18, 2018

Choosing The Day

I woke up a few days ago and thought about the day ahead. I hadn’t...

May 11, 2018

5 Ways to Find and Sustain Motivation

As a writer, one of the things I struggle with is motivation. One of the...