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Could the Church be the Best Hope for Our Boys?

Could the Church be the Best Hope for Our Boys?

Last updated on: September 25, 2013 at 8:44 am by Tim Wright

Could the Church be the Best Hope for Our Boys? 2013-09-25T08:44:12+00:00 Tim Wright

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These are tough days to be a boy!

Boys are falling behind girls in virtually every area of education from pre-school to college
The average reading skills of a 17 year old boy have declined in the last 20 years
17-18 of the top 20 growing professions favor the verbal and relational skills of women over men
Boys are growing up in a world without a compelling vision for noble manhood

These are tough days to be the Church:

Sexual scandals in the Catholic Church
Angry, fringe churches like Westboro Baptist making front page news
Pastors of mega-churches caught in various scandals of their own making
Church and denominational splits over gay/lesbian issues
Church attendance in decline, especially among young adults
70-90% of all boys leaving the church in their teens and early 20’s…and most not returning.

So it may seem cavalier or reckless to suggest that the Christian Church could be the best hope for our boys.

Having spent almost 30 years as a pastor, and having worked on the boy crisis for the last 7 years, I believe the Church could be best positioned to help us solve the boy crisis for the following reasons:

The Church is rooted in a deep, rich, sacred view of men and women. The Bible says that men and women are created in the Image of God. Both male and female are good. Both are equal. But they are also different. Take off our clothes and we see the difference. Take the clothes off of our brains and we see the difference (at least 60 differences between the male and female brain have been identified so far). The male is not better than the female, just different. The female is not better than the male, just different. Both are rooted in the sacred view that they are created, male and female, in the Image of God. Based on that, the Church can rise above political correctness and stereotyping to draw out the best in our boys and our girls. It can take the lead in reshaping the discussion, moving us from antagonism of one sex toward the other to a comprehensive, sacred appreciation of the equality and uniqueness of both.
The Founder of Christianity offers a vision for compelling manhood. Jesus offers boys a vision of what it looks like to be a man: Courageous, compassionate, a warrior against injustice, an advocate for the voiceless, a friend, passionate, committed, a man of his word, a man of action, gracious, humble, gentle, tough, forgiving, purposeful, commanding, strong, fully in tune with who he is, and ultimately a man willing to lay down his life not just for his friends, but for his enemies. Imagine our boys growing up into that kind of manhood.
The Church understands the primal need of every boy for a blessing from his father. Part of what makes a boy a man is the blessing of his father—that moment when dad looks his son in the eyes and tells him he loves him and that he is proud of who his son is becoming. Sadly, most boys never hear those words from dad. For some it’s because dad isn’t around. For others it’s because dad never received that blessing from his father and so has no idea how to give it to his son. The ministry of Jesus began with the blessing from his Father. Armed with his father’s love and approval, Jesus had the masculine power he needed to change the world. The Church stands in a unique position to train men to give that blessing to their sons and to boys in general.
The Church has an army of men who can pour masculine energy into our boys. In a time when our boys have few men investing in them, the Church is loaded with potential male mentors, who, with a bit of training, can begin to pour good masculine energy into our boys who desperately crave men in their lives.

That’s why the Church could be the best hope for our boys. Why could be? Because the Church has a checkered record, at best, when it comes to raising boys into honorable men. Too often the Church has raised boys to lord it over women rather than serve them. Too often the Church has devalued women, treating them as inferior to men. None of this has been Biblical. None of it has been in line with Jesus and his agenda. Yet sadly, it’s still happening today.

If the Church can get its act together and embrace its deep, sacred understanding of male and female, if the Church can let go of its past sins and truly follow Jesus, the one who is the vision for manhood, and more than that, the vision for humankind, then the Church can take the lead in changing the storyline of our boys.

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