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We talked around it
\nnot about it
\nthe elephant in the room:
\nthe corpse in the basement a year ago<\/a><\/p>\n

I couldn\u2019t leave Mom alone today so I
\ndrove her to the library, the grocery store
\nneither of us mentioned my brother\u2019s death<\/p>\n

not directly<\/p>\n

I said something about leaving my Christmas lights up a little longer
\nso I would turn them off today
\nShe said something about the color of the flowers she bought with her groceries<\/p>\n

while she was out, I tried to fix her slow-running bathtub drain
\nbut I failed<\/p>\n

some things you just can\u2019t fix<\/p>\n

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