7 Signs You Are at Risk for an Unhealthy Relationship

Last updated on: December 15, 2024 at 6:36 pm by Terry Gaspard

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7 Signs You Are at Risk for an Unhealthy Relationship 2024-12-15T18:36:29-05:00 Terry Gaspard

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Are you at risk for being in an unhealthy romantic relationship? While some men engage in one-sided or unhappy relationships, this experience is more common for women. If you are wondering if you are wasting time with the wrong person, you probably are and need to listen to your instincts. Many women in unhealthy relationships find themselves attracted to a partner who are their opposites or who they aren’t compatible with.

Compatibility is about sharing common values and goals, having fun together, and liking each other, helps to sustain a couple through hard times. Both chemistry and compatibility are essential to a long-lasting healthy intimate relationship.

However, if you meet someone who is pleasant and you don’t feel an instant attraction, try not to rule him or her out because the chemistry isn’t strong. On the other hand, if you don’t feel like being close physically after several dates, let him or her know you just want to be friends. This may be hard for the other person to hear, but will save both of you from heartache later on.

Here are 7 signs that your relationship is unhealthy:

You feel uncomfortable with a person and it’s not easy to get close. In other words, you feel that you can’t be yourself and have to walk on eggshells. You feel unsafe in the relationship and unable to express your thoughts, feelings, and desires openly without fear of rejection.
You don’t feel there’s mutual respect in your relationship. You don’t admire and respect each other for who you are. If you don’t have respect for your partner, it will eat away at chemistry until you have nothing left.
Your partner fails to keep agreements. He or she doesn’t call or show up when they say they will. Your partner doesn’t appear trustworthy because they aren’t reliable and there’s inconsistency between his or her words and actions.
He or she doesn’t make time for you on a regular basis. Your partner doesn’t make you a priority or place a high value on your relationship. This includes sending regular text messages or phone calls to show that he or she is thinking of you.
They don’t listen well when you talk or show interest in you by asking you questions about your work, hobbies, friends, and family.
He or she rarely makes plans to do things with you with friends or includes you in his/her inner circle. If something special is going on in their life, he or she doesn’t invite you to celebrate with others.
Your partner doesn’t talk about your future together. If he or she says they’re not ready for a commitment, take them seriously – they’re just not that into you. Don’t waste your time on a relationship that doesn’t have a future.

Visualizing a Healthy Relationship

It’s important to begin visualizing yourself in a healthy relationship before you can embark on one. Consider making a vision board where you can post quotes messages and photos of the type of person or relationship that you aspire to have. Check it on a regular basis and see if your prospects match up to the type of person who is a good fit for you. You don’t have to settle for less than you deserve.

Karen, an outgoing twenty-nine year old single mom, reflects on a troubling pattern she’s noticed in her intimate relationships. She reflects, “I always tend to go for guys who are emotionally distant. I think it’s because I’m afraid of commitment. I’ve been hurt many times and I mistrust my partners due to being left suddenly by my ex.”

Karen met Brian on the rebound – less than a year after her ex-husband moved out. She tends to get into relationships quickly and then get cold feet. Since her divorce two years, she has a tendency to pick guys who avoid commitment or who are distant and then wonders why things don’t work out.

In the beginning, Brian came on strong – inviting Karen to romantic dinners and showing affection. But over the past month, he doesn’t always return her text or phone messages and they rarely go out for dinner or to an activity. Karen feels unsure what to make of Brian’s inconsistent behavior and is feeling mistrustful and tempted to scan his cell phone when he isn’t watching. She questions if something is wrong with her rather than questioning whether the relationship is right for her.

There is recent evidence that friendship is the secret ingredient to a happy, lasting relationship. Look for qualities you admire in your partner and remind yourself of these admirable qualities regularly.

When it comes to matters of the heart, where admiration and respect are found, love will be sustained. But where these things are absent, love will die. Finding a partner who likes and respects you as much as you do him or her will give you the best chance of finding lasting love.

Follow Terry on Twitter , Facebook, and movingpastdivorce.com. Terry’s award winning book Daughters of Divorce: Overcome the Legacy of Your Parents’ Breakup and Enjoy A Happy, Long-Lasting Relationship was published in January of 2016 by Sourcebooks. Terry’s book, The Remarriage Manual: How to Make Everything Work Better the Second Time Around, was published by Sounds True in February of 2020

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