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Please Remain Seated

Last updated on: August 20, 2026 at 1:30 pm by Stuart Delony

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Please Remain Seated 2026-08-20T13:30:17-04:00 Stuart Delony

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A young man sits calmly on a grimy city bus with his eyes closed, appearing peaceful and grounded. A smudged, imperfectly cleaned patch on the dirty window beside him reveals a blurred, sunlit landscape outside. Behind him, other passengers are dimly visible, including a man in a red cap. The bus interior is worn and chaotic, contrasting with the man's quiet presence.

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Life, as Arthur Schopenhauer once suggested, is a bus ride—not a scenic tour or a cushy charter, but a crowded, grimy city bus. You didn’t choose to board. You don’t control the route.

You can’t get off early. You’re crammed shoulder-to-shoulder with strangers, many of whom are annoying, oblivious, or actively hostile. There’s no clear driver in sight, no map, and no explanation of where this thing is going—just the dull hum of motion and the occasional existential draft from a broken window.

And somehow, that bleak metaphor feels… honest.

To be clear, Schopenhauer never actually described life as a bus ride—but the metaphor fits. It echoes his bleak view of human existence: powerless, restless, and painfully aware. I just swapped his hedgehog dilemma for public transit.

It also feels like a decent picture of how deconstruction begins. Not with certainty. Not with clarity. But with that disorienting moment when you stop pretending you know where the bus is going—or why you were pretending in the first place.

Looking Out the Window

For a while, I thought I had the ride figured out. Like many others, I was handed a spiritual roadmap early on. Here’s your belief system, here’s your destination, and here’s a church program that makes it look like we’re going somewhere on purpose. I took it seriously. Memorized it. Taught it. Tried not to question the broken air conditioning or the smell of stale performance.

Then one day, I actually looked out the window.

That’s the beginning of deconstruction. You stop mouthing along with the announcements and start wondering who recorded them in the first place. You begin to realize that most of your spiritual habits were inherited, not chosen—assembled by the people and systems around you like a theological IKEA set—half the parts missing, no hex key.

And then, if you’re lucky, it starts to turn inward.

You begin to ask: Who am I outside of these systems? Who am I without the roles, the expectations, the coping mechanisms disguised as righteousness? You start to realize that what you thought was obedience might’ve just been fear. That your certainty was a cage with stained glass windows.

It’s not just the world you’re deconstructing. It’s yourself.

Shared Misery, Shared Space

When you start seeing clearly, it’s hard to unsee. And one of the first things that shifts is how you engage the people around you.

Before, I’d get rattled when someone on the bus acted out—when someone took up too much space, talked too loud, or just refused to follow the unspoken rules. But now? I try to remember that most people are riding with their own trauma, tangled wiring, and half-read maps. Some are selfish. Some are just scared. Some genuinely can’t see outside their own broken windows.

Their mess doesn’t have to become mine.

That clarity changes how you show up. It quiets the urge to control or fix. It makes room for kindness, not as a moral obligation, but as a survival strategy. A way to move through this shared absurdity with a little less harm. A little more grace.

Because seriously—why are we still fighting over seat cushions and leg room?

The Real Work Happens Off-Mic

Years ago, I led a youth mission trip to Skid Row in Los Angeles. We partnered with a local ministry that handed out meals—but only after an hour-long evangelistic service. It was less about compassion and more like spiritual timeshare sales: sit through our pitch, and maybe we’ll let you eat.

They asked me to preach one of those mandatory services. And I did. But it never felt like ministry.

That came later—off-mic—sitting with people, hearing their stories, being present with them in the wreckage. No message. No altar call. Just showing up, listening, and realizing how easily “the gospel” becomes a product when the system takes the wheel. Funny how people become easier to hear once you stop treating them like a project.

It was one of the first cracks in the window.

The Hope That Doesn’t Sell

So is there hope in all of this?

I think so. But it’s not the kind you can bottle or sell. It doesn’t come with a promise or a guarantee. It’s quieter. Stranger.

Hope, in this context, is choosing to engage—not because you’re guaranteed it’ll change anything, but because not engaging makes you smaller. Colder. Brittle.

Hope is realizing that you don’t have to mirror the chaos around you. That presence matters.

That kindness, curiosity, and grounding aren’t signs of weakness—they’re signs that maybe, just maybe, you’ve stopped trying to white-knuckle your way through life and started actually living in your seat.

Even if the destination is still unclear.

Closing the Loop

Schopenhauer was right—the ride is bleak. But he missed something.

You don’t have to go numb. You don’t have to lose yourself to survive it. There’s a strange kind of freedom that comes with seeing clearly: you realize how little you control, and how much you still can choose. How you treat others. How you respond. What you carry—and what you let go.

Deconstruction isn’t about getting off the bus. It’s about waking up on it.

Please remain seated.

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About Stuart Delony

I’m Stuart Delony, a former pastor who walked out of the church but couldn’t shake the ways of Jesus. These days, I host Snarky Faith—a podcast and platform that wrestles with faith, culture, and meaning from the fringe. I’m not here to fix Christianity. I’m here to name what’s broken, find what’s still worth keeping, and hold space for the questions that don’t have clean answers. If you’ve been burned, disillusioned, or just done with the noise—welcome. You’re in good company. You can read more about the author here.

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