Advice for mom who is unexpectedly expecting?

Last updated on: February 25, 2014 at 9:16 pm by Simcha Fisher

Advice for mom who is unexpectedly expecting? 2014-02-25T21:16:48-05:00 Simcha Fisher

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A reader writes:

Dear Simcha, do you have any reading material suggestions (in print or online) for me? I have an adorable 8 month old and just found out I am unexpectedly expecting another one! I intellectually know this is a blessing but yet could use some encouragement about how to overcome the panic?

My answer:

First of all, congratulations on your pregnancy, AND don’t feel like you have to Feel the Right Thing right away. I always figure it takes nine months to get used to the idea of being pregnant; and it’s possible, even normal, to be welcoming of a new baby and horrified at being pregnant, all at the same time.

I just got a book called Tiny Blue Lines: Reclaiming Your Life, Preparing for Your Baby, and Moving Foward with Faith in an Unplanned Pregnancy. I haven’t read it yet – not even the first page – but it’s getting good reviews, and sounds kinda like exactly what you are looking for, so I’m taking a chance and passing the name along.

It’s a really, really good idea to find other people who will understand what you are going through. I used to belong to this message board for people who use NFP. It’s grown a lot since my day, but there are many, many women (and a few men!) there who will understand exactly what you are dealing with, and will be your real (online) friend.

Other than that, make sure you are praying with your husband every day – even just a quick thing. There is no substitute for being united and at peace with your spouse with the help of the Holy Spirit. If at all possible, an hour a week at adoration can make a huge difference.

Hang in there! I know it’s to feel at peace about it, especially as you look forward and wonder what the next few decades might hold. I had my first two kids fourteen months apart, and the second and third kids fifteen months apart. It’s hard, but definitely not impossible, and very often a joyful life, especially when you’re young. And remember that you are giving your child a magnificent, irreplaceable gift in a sibling.

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