The Trouble With Being Nice

Last updated on: April 27, 2010 at 5:00 am by JBW

The Trouble With Being Nice 2010-04-27T05:00:42-05:00 JBW

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A few years back I was advised by a mentor to toughen up, to challenge people more.

It was hard news to take, being a life-long consensus builder and a recovering people-pleaser. I liked being nice.

I like to be liked.

But in business, or in any leadership capacity, we are not called so much to be nice, but to move a team forward to some greater end. Which innevitably means that you will find yourself dealing with some not-so-nice situations, like sticking to an opinion in the face of outright criticism and dissent. Or confronting unethical and destructive behavior. Or firing poor performers.

In a word, leadership requires conviction – a sense of doing the right thing, which trumps niceness.

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