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July 2014

July 10, 2014

Beautiful, Beautiful Bitterness

The other morning, I came across a tweet from a self-identified “theobrogian,” calling for ex-fundamentalist...

February 2014

February 03, 2014

Not So Fast, The Daily Beast: On Rape Myths and Those Slutty, Gossipy Women

Content Note: Discussion of sexual assault, victim blaming This is a response to a piece...

January 2014

January 21, 2014

Can detachment from others serve life?

Calls for empathy and compassion toward oppressors and abusers are popular in American Christianity. I...

January 08, 2014

Proverbs of Ashes and suffering to save our oppressors

I'm currently reading through Proverbs of Ashes by Rita Nakashima Brock and Rebecca Ann Parker. In the...

November 2013

November 21, 2013

What “Love and Respect” and “Fireproof” Teach Abusers and their Victims

Content Note: Descriptions of Abuse, Abuse Apologism Ever since we started dating, my husband Abe...

October 2013

October 27, 2013

Privilege in Christian Pacifism: Fight the Systems, Not the Survivors

This is the second post in a short series I've been working on about the...

October 23, 2013

Privilege in Christian Pacifism: My Life is Not Your Thought Exercise

I wrote this post a few days ago and had it scheduled for today, but...

October 03, 2013

“You Are Not Your Own:” Wrapping Things Up

This post is part of a series called“You Are Not Your Own,” focusing on rape and...

September 2013

September 25, 2013

When churches hurt children

Content Note: Child Abuse, Spanking I've followed Stuff Fundies Like for years now. It's been...

September 23, 2013

“You Are Not Your Own:” Is Rape Just Another “Sexual Sin?”

This post is part of a series called“You Are Not Your Own,” focusing on rape and...

September 06, 2013

On Hugo Schwyzer and Christianity’s Open Door Policy for Abusers

Trigger Warning: Abuse apologism, murder/suicide, Hugo Schwyzer We have to talk about Hugo Schwyzer. If...

August 2013

August 05, 2013

Maybe God is a “bitch”

In the months following my decision to leave fundamentalism for good, I began to shy...

July 2013

July 29, 2013

When Anger Saved My Life

Trigger Warning for Descriptions of Intimate Partner Violence, Sexual Assault, Self Injury, and Rape. I...

June 2013

June 16, 2013

Would Father’s Day be different?

Would Father's Day be different . . . If Christianity wasn't preaching that, not only...

June 09, 2013

When my abuser is welcome at the table, I am not.

It's the cool thing in more progressive branches of Christianity now to talk about how...

May 2013

May 23, 2013

On gaslighting.

Trigger Warning: Verbal Abuse, Gaslighting He called me a slut. I remember it so clearly...

March 2013

March 29, 2013

The cross and radical activism

The idea that Jesus chose, out of his own free will, to go to the...

March 20, 2013

Spiritual Abuse Awareness Week: My Guest Post at Rachel Held Evans

Today I'm guest posting at Rachel Held Evans' blog, talking about abuse and images of...

March 18, 2013

Spiritual Abuse Awareness Week: Violences are Connected

Back in February, Sen. Marco Rubio explained why he opposed the Violence Against Women Act:...

March 11, 2013

Must reads!

Lots of posts that I want to share this week. I hope you'll check them...

March 10, 2013

My body remembers

[TRIGGER WARNINGS: Rape and Abuse] As many of you know, in highschool I spent a...

January 2013

January 23, 2013

Let me be angry.

Trigger Warning for abuse and rape: I've been tired of fighting. Been feeling like nothing...

January 16, 2013

No one’s Messiah

To Christian men and the churches they attend: I am not your Christ. Churches may...

January 11, 2013

Some humans are more equal than others: John Piper on spousal abuse and submission

I'm doing a series on complementarianism's manipulative claims at promoting equality. You can read the...

September 2012

September 12, 2012

John Shore on IFB survivors and my journey toward healing

This piece at John Shore's blog just awakened all kinds of emotions for me: In...

June 2012

June 27, 2012

No Experience Necessary?

If you wanted an expert opinion on something, usually you'd ask someone with experience on...

April 2012

April 16, 2012

Relevant Magazine, Hugo Schwyzer, and a thing called grace

Trigger warnings for rape, abuse, stalking I believe in a thing called grace. Really, I...

April 06, 2012

Never going back

Trigger Warning for Abuse I used to be in an abusive relationship. Once, I broke...

March 2012

March 20, 2012

When I can

People assume that healing from abuse is a strict progression of cause to effect, but actually...

September 2011

September 05, 2011

Thoughts and feelings

The following is an exchange between Sarah the Thinker and Sarah the Feeler. Feeler parts...