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Prayer as Heartful Listening: How Music Awakens Love and Awe

Prayer as Heartful Listening: How Music Awakens Love and Awe

Last updated on: December 9, 2025 at 4:45 am by Tricia Gates Brown

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Prayer as Heartful Listening: How Music Awakens Love and Awe 2025-12-09T04:45:58-08:00 Tricia Gates Brown

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“Music washes away from the soul the dust of everyday life.” —Berthold Auerbach

Rethinking What Prayer Means

As the new year turns, I am rethinking prayer. By this I don’t mean that I started saying prayers differently. I mean that what prayer is to me has changed. Really, decades have passed since I “said prayers” unless in a group setting—mainly because, for me, formulating words has tended to get in the way. In lieu of this, I have tried either to tune in to the divine in various ways, or to repeat simple mantras encapsulating what in most true in my heart at that moment.

What Stirs the Heart Toward the Divine and Others

I tend to understand the experience of prayer as that which stirs something in us—that which stirs connection to the transcendent or the Divine. For me, the things that make me feel most connected or enmeshed with divinity are love and empathy and awe. But so often in my heart and life, love/empathy/awe are buried under worries, plans, and distractions—the way the best ingredients in a soup might sink to the bottom. I cannot get to them unless something stirs the bowl and brings them to the surface where I can spoon them out and savor them. For me, prayer is whatever stirs my pot so that the love, empathy, and awe—so often lost and buried in the day-to-day—rise to the surface.

Music as My Deepest Form of Prayer

And I have found that for me, nothing stirs my pot like listening to certain kinds of music; and listening in a certain heart-wide-open way. I have come to see this heartful listening as the closest thing to prayer for me. It is not that listening to such music leads me to pray or puts me in a mind for prayer. No, it is that the experience of listening itself is prayer. Heartful music listening has become my most impactful and meaningful prayer experience. Sometimes I have this experience when I’ve read an amazing poem, but rarely. When listening to my favorite music, I become so filled with love/empathy/awe for my fellow creatures and life itself, and feel so deeply in touch with the divine, that prayer is all I know to call it.

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Other Stirring Encounters as Prayer

Other experiences I now see as prayer involve something more relational, like a deep, honest encounter with an animal, or something momentarily devastating, like seeing a houseless person in the cold. Either of these experiences (and many others), if I let them work in me, stir up something so painful and tender that too often I bury it, in part out of habit; in part to avoid uncomfortable feelings. But when I let myself feel honestly the stirring experience, it is prayer. Often that stirring makes me physically shudder; it makes me audibly moan a little with grief at vulnerability and suffering. It is so easy to put up blinders in such instances—because being in the world in this open-hearted way is painful.

Looking for Experiences of Awe

This year I want to invite more such encounters, and to move more deeply into the pattern of prayer I am discovering. I want to let things stir my pot and put me in touch with God. For me, this practice is so much less ego-addled and empty than praying with words—though I deeply admire people who compose beautifully-articulated prayers, people like the late poet John O’Donohue, for example.

I feel that love, empathy, and awe are harder to come by in my life than at some other periods. There was the year I lived perched over the Pacific Ocean in a tiny town in northwestern Oregon, where I would daily walk on the sand adjacent to the surf, often filled with wonder at my surroundings or the seals who sometimes swam beside me in greeting and accompaniment. But this chapter of life was charmed and rare. Most of my years have been so subsumed with the daily mundane and obligatory that whole weeks pass without so much as a brush of transcendence. During these times, mental or wordy prayer feels to me as empty and dead as a dry carcass.

How Music Reawakens the Holy in Me

But I have learned that if I hear certain voices, certain songs (usually by favorite female singer-songwriters—Lori McKenna, Anais Mitchell, Mary Chapin Carpenter, and dozens of others), and really listen, the holy is stirred in me, reawakening everything in me that is eternal, putting me in touch with God in the only way I am able to understand the Divine—though the most profound experiences of being human.

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Tricia Gates Brown works as a writer, freelance editor, and poet in Oregon's Willamette Valley. She holds a PhD in theology from the University of St. Andrews and is an Ordained Deacon in the Episcopal Diocese of Oregon. Read more at https://triciagatesbrown.net . You can read more about the author here.

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