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Find Hope
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Sometimes, failure stares me in the face and seems to mock my very existence. In the quiet moments lying in bed long before sunrise, when there is nothing and no one to distract me, I wrestle with a thousand regrets. There are no ruminations of suicide because that would only add failure to failure, but I often pray, \u201cJesus, You can take me home anytime You want.\u201d\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

My dad used to irritate me when he\u2019d say, \u201cThere\u2019s no rest for the wicked\u201d (quoting Isaiah 48:22). He suffered enormous emotional and physical distress because of his poor choices. I swore I\u2019d never become like him, but I can remember many sleepless nights.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Am I wicked?<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Has the Lord abandoned me, along with almost everyone else?\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Since my divorce, I have lost most of my friends and a huge chunk of my family, and very few hold me in high regard anymore. Strolling through my iPhone contact list or Facebook reminds me of my many broken relationships.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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Broken Relationships Hurt
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Discouragement is an enemy that hounds me at every opportunity.<\/span><\/b> \ \u00a0<\/span><\/h2>\n \ David, in a season of depression, wrote words that are tattooed on my soul. \u201cI am a foreigner to my own family, a stranger to my own mother\u2019s children. Rescue me from the mire, do not let me sink; deliver me from those who hate me, from the deep waters. Do not let the floodwaters engulf me or the depths swallow me up or the pit close its mouth over me.\u201d (Psalm 69:8, 14-15, NIV).\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n \ I find it comforting that this \u201cman after God\u2019s own heart\u201d (I Samuel 13:14, NIV) struggled with deep insecurities and personal misery. Seventy-three of the Psalms are attributed to David, and they are loaded with cries and complaints to God. In Psalm 22, he wrote, \u201cMy God, My God, why have you forsaken me?\u201d (Yes, Jesus quoted this verse from the cross in His moment of despair.)<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n \ David also knew what it was like to live with failure. He <\/span>wasn\u2019t<\/span><\/i> God\u2019s guy because of His moral purity and stellar character; he was a murderous adulterer who would never win \u201cFather of the Year\u201d awards, either. However, David consistently threw himself at Abba\u2019s feet in heartfelt devotion and confidence in the Lord\u2019s mercy and goodness.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n What David Did Right . . .\u00a0<\/strong><\/h2>\n**** ** In other words, David consistently chose God, and it was his <\/span>choice<\/span><\/i>, not his <\/span>character<\/span><\/i>, that set him apart. When it comes to our relationship with Jesus, it is our choice to follow Him, not our performance, that matters most.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n ** ****Yes, of course, obedience and character matter, too, but on our best days, we are far from perfect. David was special because he pressed on and surrendered his heart to Yahweh regardless of his struggles, failures, or circumstances.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n I love <\/span>Michele Howe\u2019s insight<\/span><\/a>: \u201cAm I choosing to preoccupy myself with myriad of flaws, faults, and weaknesses? Or will I choose to set my heart, mind, and soul on God and know him better?\u201d I can attach my heart to God amidst my struggles or to my past. I choose.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Am I wicked?\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n No! I am redeemed and perfect in God\u2019s sight. (I know; it\u2019s also hard for me to believe.)<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Am I abandoned by Jesus?\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n No. Never!<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n "A You Must Find Hope Despite Broken Relationships Hurt***** *****Image by Franz Bachinger<\/a> from Pixabay<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n However, the relational consequences of my choices often persist.\u00a0<\/span><\/b>******* ** \u00a0<\/span><\/h2>\n ** *******I am so grateful for Abba\u2019s mercy (i.e., I <\/span>don\u2019t<\/span><\/i> always get the pain I deserve) and for His grace (i.e., I <\/span>do<\/span><\/i> get His undeserved blessings).\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n That said, being estranged from some of my kids, grandkids, and extended family is excruciating. (Here\u2019s another helpful <\/span>article about<\/span><\/a> how to navigate social and relational changes due to divorce.) At times, I strive to have hope. I need to believe restoration is possible.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n I wish I could give you \u201cthree pain-free steps to healing.\u201d Sorry, I can\u2019t. There is no easy path to rebuilding a broken relationship, but<\/span> there is a way that starts with a humble, heartfelt prayer. <\/span>Prayer is the antidote to our depression.<\/span><\/b> It\u2019s why David cried out to the Lord so often.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n My most frequent prayer is from the last verse in the Old Testament: <\/span>\u201cJesus, restore the hearts of my children to me and my heart to theirs.\u201d <\/span><\/i>I have whispered those words hundreds of times.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n That very last verse in the Old Testament Scriptures is an odd one. In the context of referring to frolicking, well-fed cows (I\u2019m not kidding) and a reference to the prophet Elijah, Malachi expresses a prophetic promise.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Malachi Speaks About Hearts . . .\u00a0<\/strong><\/h2>\n********* ** Here\u2019s what Malachi wrote: \u201cSee, I will send the prophet Elijah\u202fto you before that great and dreadful day of the\u202fLord comes.\u202fHe will turn the hearts of the parents to their children,\u202fand the hearts of the children to their parents . . .\u201d (Malachi 4:4-5, NIV).<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n ** Malachi\u2019s book addresses judgment and God\u2019s desire to renew His covenant with His people. It is also filled with messianic and probable end-time prophecies.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n ** About 400 years later, in Luke\u2019s gospel, the angel of the Lord appeared to Zachariah and spoke to him about his son, whom we would later know as John the Baptist.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n ** \u201cAnd he will go on before the Lord, in the spirit and power of Elijah, to turn the hearts of the parents to their children and the disobedient to the wisdom of the righteous\u2014to make ready a people prepared for the Lord\u201d (Luke 1:17, NIV).<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n ** *********Our relationships are important to God, especially those between family members.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n The Scriptures are full of many examples of tensions between parents and their children. (I wrote about fathers and sons <\/span>here<\/span><\/a>.) Knowing our human nature and how we tend to be unforgiving and hold grudges, the Lord made something clear to us. He wants to heal the parent-child relationship and restore hearts to wholeness.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n "A How to Find Hope\u2026.********* *********Image by Polina Barinova<\/a> from Pixabay<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n I have failed my family many times.<\/span><\/b>*********** ** \u00a0<\/span><\/h2>\n ** As a man.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n ** As a son.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n ** As a brother.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n ** As a husband.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n ** ***********As a father.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n "A Don\u2019t Give Up! A plant emerging and flourishing\u2026*********** ***********Image by congerdesign<\/a> from Pixabay<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n*********** ** Yet my Heavenly Father, who knows and sees <\/span>all<\/span><\/i>\u2014past, present, and future\u2014shouts hope into my heart, \u201cHold on, Kurt. All is not lost. My specialty is restoration and renewal, and I want to heal your relationships more than you can imagine!\u201d<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n ** And He will.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n ** He is our hope for restoring broken hearts and damaged relationships, and <\/span>prayer is our path. <\/span><\/b>At the very least, prayer will alter your heart\u2019s focus from self and your struggles to Him.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n ** Thankfully, in His time, Abba makes all things beautiful and somehow works all things together for our good.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n ** So, don\u2019t give up.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n ** Don\u2019t wallow in despair.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n ** Do get on your face and cry out to God.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n ** My grandma used to have a small plaque on her kitchen wall that read, \u201cPrayer changes things.\u201d<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n ** It does.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n ** ***********\u00a0<\/p>\n You can find out more about Kurt Bubna and his writing on Twitter<\/strong><\/a> and\u00a0Facebook<\/strong><\/a>. You can read more about his views and insights, both in his books<\/a><\/strong> and on his website<\/strong><\/a>.<\/h3>\n************* ** \u00a0<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" ** *************Sometimes, failure stares me in the face and seems to mock my very existence. In the quiet moments lying in bed long before sunrise, when there is nothing and no one to distract me, I wrestle with a thousand regrets. 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