{"id":495,"date":"2024-06-22T16:24:14","date_gmt":"2024-06-22T23:24:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/parentingwithjoy\/?p=495"},"modified":"2024-06-22T16:24:14","modified_gmt":"2024-06-22T23:24:14","slug":"discipline-that-disciples","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/parentingwithjoy\/2024\/06\/discipline-that-disciples\/","title":{"rendered":"Discipline that Disciples"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

Discipline that disciples is about relationship, not rules. | Photo by Alena Shekhovtsova on Canva.com.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/p>

In November, I introduced you to the <\/span>Connected Families<\/span><\/a> Framework to teach your children<\/span> grace and truth<\/span><\/a> during discipline. Proverbs 3:12 (NLT) tells us, \u201cFor the <\/span>Lord<\/span> corrects those he loves, just as a father corrects a child in whom he delights.\u201d When we discipline intentionally and like our Father, we discipline in a way that disciples our children\u2019s hearts and faith. This is a discipline based on relationships, not rules. It goes beyond behaviors to changing hearts.<\/span><\/p>\n

As a Connected Families Certified Parent Coach, I am excited to share this framework with you.<\/span><\/p>\n

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God\u2019s Discipline and Discipleship<\/span><\/h2>\n* ** This is a framework that completely changed my parenting, and really, my life. When I discovered this in late 2019, I knew I had finally found a way to discipline that would also help me to become more like Jesus and reflect Who God is to my children.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n ** Until then, I knew that God didn\u2019t just punish us to shame or inflict pain. But, He teaches us and gently convicts us to help us grow in Christ\u2019s likeness.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n ** *God also doesn\u2019t get us to obey through fear or threats, but He confidently leads us and humbly allows us to make mistakes to learn.<\/span><\/p>\n The Connected Families Framework<\/span><\/h2>\n Since discovering Connected Families through their book <\/span>Discipline that Connects with Your Child\u2019s Heart<\/span><\/i><\/a>, <\/span><\/i>I have felt more confident in my parenting during the hard times, even when I mess up. I am confident and safe knowing I can use that mistake to grow and model failing forward to my girls.<\/span><\/p>\n Safety is where the framework begins. It is our foundation. If we want to enjoy parenting more and change our children\u2019s behavior, we must first change our own. Only then can we connect, coach, and correct our children with the hopes of not only disciplining but discipling them as well.<\/span><\/p>\n Let\u2019s dig into each step of the framework a little bit by looking at the message we send, the Scripture to guide us, and the questions we can ask to grow in our parenting and discipling.<\/span><\/p>\n Foundation<\/span><\/h2>\n\nMessage: Child, You Are Safe With Me<\/span><\/li>\nScripture: \u201cAll praise to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly realms because we are united with Christ.\u201d Ephesians 1:3 NLT<\/span><\/li>\nQuestion: What is going on in me?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\nConnect<\/span><\/h2>\n\nMessage: Child, You Are Loved No Matter What<\/span><\/li>\nScripture: \u201cHe will turn the hearts of the fathers to their children and he will cause those who are rebellious to accept the wisdom of the godly.\u201d Luke 1:17 NLT<\/span><\/li>\nQuestion: What is going on in my child?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\nCoach<\/span><\/h2>\n\nMessage: Child, You Are Called and Capable<\/span><\/li>\nScripture: \u201cFor we are God\u2019s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.\u201d Ephesians 2:10 NLT<\/span><\/li>\nQuestions: What can I affirm in my child? What are the skills my child is lacking?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\nCorrect<\/span><\/h2>\n\nMessage: Child, You Are Responsible for Your Actions<\/span><\/li>\nScripture: \u201cDear brothers and sisters, if another believer is overcome by some sin, you who are godly[<\/span>b<\/span><\/a>] should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path. And be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself.\u201d Galatians 6:1<\/span><\/li>\n******** Question: What can I do to build wisdom? What (if any) consequences may help?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n********* ** Discipling Through Discipline<\/span><\/h2>\n ** Now, this is just a broad look at the framework and our work as parents is never done, but I hope this will help you see the potential of this type of discipline that disciples.<\/span><\/p>\n ** Next week we will look at a real-life discipline situation through the Connected Families Framework. But, until then, don\u2019t hesitate to reach out for more personalized help.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" ** *********In November, I introduced you to the Connected Families Framework to teach your children grace and truth during discipline. 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