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Giving and Receiving: Lessons for the Holidays and Beyond

Giving and Receiving: Lessons for the Holidays and Beyond

Last updated on: December 10, 2025 at 9:27 pm by Susan P Lax

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Giving and Receiving: Lessons for the Holidays and Beyond 2025-12-10T21:27:01-05:00 Susan P Lax

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The Emotional Complexity of Giving and Receiving

Every holiday season, we hear words like joy, generosity, and gratitude.
We talk about giving and receiving as if they are simple, effortless acts.
But in the quiet corners of my own life, I have learned a different truth.
Both giving and receiving carry their own emotional weight—humility, compassion, resentment, blame, and joy.
Where human connection is involved, nothing is really that simple.

The Truth About Giving and Receiving

Giving isn’t always free of heavy or complicated emotions.
And receiving isn’t always without blame, anger, or jealousy.
We rarely speak about these truths during the holidays, when we decorate our moments with sparkle and the miracle of light.
Yet honesty— has her own unique glow.
Reflecting on how giving and receiving affect us can deepen our relationships and invite our hearts to soften.

When Giving Feels Complicated

We like to imagine giving as a pure act of love.
But giving can ask far more of us than we expect.
It can stir old wounds—moments when we felt unseen, unappreciated, or stretched beyond what our heart had to offer.
Tzedakah, charity, is a core Jewish value—one that has guided me throughout my personal and professional life.
But no one ever taught me about the emotional obstacles that giving can carry.

Why Do We Give?

We give because it feels good and right.
We give because generosity connects us—
to the world, to humanity, to the people we love.
And we give because generosity keeps our hearts open, even when life tries to close them.
Giving isn’t always soft. Sometimes it requires courage.

When Receiving Feels Heavy

Receiving can feel just as complicated as giving.
It can bring up blame, resentment, shame, or jealousy.
It can awaken the quieter questions within us:
Do I deserve this?
Am I taking too much?
What will be asked of me later?

Sometimes a gift—whether emotional or material—asks us to face the parts of ourselves still learning to believe in our own worth.
Receiving challenges, us to open the door of the heart and have faith and trust in the giver’s intention.
This can be difficult when our past has taught us caution.
Like giving, receiving, too, can be an act of courage.
It asks us to whisper to ourselves, our soul:
I allow goodness to reach me.

A hand putting something in another hand

Giving or Receiving- Photo -Kanishk Angarwal

Both Are Movements of the Heart

This year a dear soul told me, “It’s easier to be the giver than the receiver.”
Yet I knew that giving has its own weight, its own tender complications.
I have stood on both sides.
And I’ve learned that giving and receiving are movements of the heart.
One reflects the other.
Both remind us that we are deeply connected in ways that can be tender, confusing, or complicated—but profoundly human.

This Holiday Season: Be Open

This holiday season, be open to the tenderness of both giving and receiving.
Allow yourself to give with honesty—not perfection.
And to receive with trust—not blame.
May we remember that giving and receiving are simply ways we learn to love and be loved.
Imperfectly.
Unequivocally.
Together…

I am the author of the “Morning Inspiration” series, which provides readers with reflections and thoughts to start their day with spiritual inspiration.

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About Susan P. Lax

When one of Susan’s closest friends was fighting cancer and had to focus on trying to heal, they didn’t speak as often as they once did. To make sure Stephanie knew that Susan was always thinking of her each day, Susan emailed her friend a healing, positive thought first thing in the morning. Slowly, Susan discovered an ability to translate her heart words into written ones and more and more people began to receive Susan’s “Morning Inspiration” which is from where her book, A HEART’S LANDSCAPE, derived. Right now, especially with all happening in the world, Susan offers deep reminders with words and warm visuals – to take a moment and just pause – get away from the inundation and put the chaos away. Susan’s heart words and inspiring visuals guide readers to take a moment and escape all adversity and focus on carving out one joyful moment with the hope that it will lead to other good moments. You can read more about the author here.

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