Through the Veil

Last updated on: October 14, 2015 at 5:00 am by Meghann Robern

Through the Veil 2015-10-14T05:00:46+00:00 Meghann Robern

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Blessing For Those Not Here
An extra place setting at dinner. Photo by Julie Gibbons 2010(cc)

October’s Sabbat in the northern hemisphere of the Wiccan tradition is Samhain, the time when the Blessed Lady mourns for her dead Lord at the same time she prepares for the rebirth of his incarnation on the Winter Solstice. This juxtaposition of grief and hope is, to me, one of the most poignant fundamentals of the human condition.

Once upon a time I had some toxic, manipulative people in my life – people who tried to take away my exuberance. My ability to find joy in little things, or efforts to follow my bliss, were either repeatedly mocked or deliberately silenced. And I let it happen, until a few years ago when I simply could not take it anymore.

I have spent a lot of time since then trying to figure out exactly how I broke free. I had a support system in place, yes, but it had also been there before I escaped that awful situation. Over the years I’ve come to the understanding that it was the memory of my grandfather, Dada, that gave me the strength to persevere and make a new life for myself.

He was not broken by his months of torture and imprisonment as a POW in Korea. He loved his wife, and understood that even a storybook romance requires effort to maintain. His sense of honour and commitment were so profound that he was selected for service to the President of the United States as a pilot for Marine One. I know all of these things are true, and yet the things about him that have survived the years most clearly for me are his smile, as broad as the horizon, and his laughter, which came freely and loudly and proudly.

Help from Beyond the Veil
Old abandoned house in our neighborhood. Artwork by Dianne Lacourciere 2015 (cc)

I believe it was this memory of his presence, and knowing his story through others, that saved my life all those years ago. If finding joy and laughter in as much of the world as possible was good enough for this man, who had every right to be angry and hard… then surely it is good enough for me as well.

This Samhain, as the veil between the world gets thin, like the Blessed Lady I, too, find myself at the juxtaposition of grief and joy. I cry that my children will never know his laughter, that he and my father-in-law will never discuss the beauty of the Divine manifest in nature. I wish he could have seen me realize my call to ministry.

But I am also overwhelmed with joy at my life – that I refused to settle for anything less than the standards he set in love and life, and that I will no longer wear the masks others try to set upon me. Each of us has the power of the Lady within us to rebirth the memories of our loved ones as part of our grieving process. I remember the dead by making them part of me, and using their wisdom to help me follow a path of living justice – not just for others, but for myself as well.
Blessed be.

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