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2017-12-11T20:45:43-05:00

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Tinder’ing while Muslim

Last updated on: December 11, 2017 at 8:45 pm   By Ihssan Tahir

It’s getting dark outside. I lay on my sofa nestled under a throw blanket. I am lost in my thoughts and old episodes of Scrubs. My apartment is warm and cozy. I am comfortable while munching on a bag of chips. My phone rings. I look at the phone and contemplate picking up. It vibrates and dances across the table. I pick it up before it falls off. “Asaalamu alaikummmmm girl, what’s up?” I say while smiling down the phone.... Read more

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2016-01-26T21:20:00-05:00

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Yellow.

Last updated on: January 26, 2016 at 9:20 pm   By Ihssan Tahir

*Trigger warning: This post contains information about sexual assault and/or violence which may be triggering to survivors. Please read with caution.*   She sat there, in the corner, alone. She had purposely picked the dark corner in the room. No one would force her to talk if she pretended like she was in prayer. Her eyes stayed focused on the floor until the green zig zags in the carpet made her dizzy. People around her were trickling out of the... Read more

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2016-01-13T22:28:40-05:00

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Womanhood and the Muslimah

Last updated on: January 13, 2016 at 10:28 pm   By Ihssan Tahir

As soon as she opened the door I was met with the smell of simmering spices and warm food. I carefully took my boots off trying not to get snow on the plush creme carpet. I was greeted with kind and familiar smiles as I walked into the house. It was a typical December evening in Chicago. The kind of weather where your face went numb if you stayed out in the cold too long. I was relieved to be... Read more

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2015-10-28T20:28:30-05:00

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Mahr shaming

Last updated on: October 28, 2015 at 8:28 pm   By Ihssan Tahir

Lately, I have noticed the trend of Muslim women significantly reducing or at times forfeiting their mahr (dowry). In Islam, the dowry is something that is paid by the man to his intended wife. It is paid to the wife, and to her only, to show that he has serious intentions to marry her and is not simply entering into the marriage contract without any sense of obligation or effort on his part. Based on what I have seen the... Read more

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2017-09-20T13:07:55-05:00

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Second Chances

Last updated on: September 20, 2017 at 1:07 pm   By Ihssan Tahir

She rubbed her stomach in a slow circular motion. Her fingers grazed her belly button with each stroke. She watched her hand rub, rub and rub some more. She rubbed with such an intensity as if the touching of her protruding stomach would somehow help ease her thoughts. It was like her hand had a mind of its own. She was tired and could barely get out of bed that morning. She threw on a pair of jeans and tossed a... Read more

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2015-08-07T18:05:17-05:00

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Confessions of a fat Muslimah part 1

Last updated on: August 7, 2015 at 6:05 pm   By Ihssan Tahir

It was a comfortably chilly Friday evening when I was leaving the hospital. The air felt good brushing against my skin as I exited the hospital revolving door. The sun was about to set and maghrib was rushing in. I looked to the West and could see shades of deep orange, yellow and traces of blue etched in the sky. I thought to myself how no sunset was ever the same and how everyday brought the opportunity to start anew.... Read more

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2015-08-03T22:21:34-05:00

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Secret wife = Glorified “side piece”

Last updated on: August 3, 2015 at 10:21 pm   By Ihssan Tahir

She married him. She married him in secret, knowing very well that marriages never went down like that in any culture or religion. Marriages were celebratory and typically included an announcement of some sort. It didn’t have to be anything big or over the top but there had to be something. She knew that but had been convinced otherwise. From the outside Islam always looked so perfect. There was order and a sense of simplicity, but once she converted she... Read more

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2015-05-01T16:48:19-05:00

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ISNA & #blacklivesDONTmatter

Last updated on: May 1, 2015 at 4:48 pm   By Ihssan Tahir

As a Muslim woman of Afrikan descent I have had my fair amount of frustrations being raised within a predominately Arab Muslim community. Like many other Black Muslims, I have to deal with many instances of subtle prejudices to sheer racism from first and second generation Muslims who hail from Asian and Arab backgrounds. This is my response to a recent press release that was distributed by Islamic Society of North America (ISNA) in the wake of the Baltimore uprising.... Read more

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2015-02-19T01:53:04-05:00

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Deep Roots

Last updated on: February 19, 2015 at 1:53 am   By Ihssan Tahir

I rolled over in bed and quickly realized that was a huge mistake. The whole side of my body morphed into fine goosebumps and I was awoken to the crisp Chicago night and freshly pressed bed sheets. Streaks of moonlight creeped through my blinds and splashed parts of my bed. It was eerie but serene at the same time. I pulled the covers closer to my body and gazed out the window. The warmth was rushing back towards my body... Read more

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2014-10-22T02:30:34-05:00

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And then she sang…

Last updated on: October 22, 2014 at 2:30 am   By Ihssan Tahir

The sun was still beating down. It was early evening in Senegal and my plane had just landed. I looked out at the vast landscape. It was bursting with colors of the Earth, every hue of green and brown imaginable to the eye. The sand swirled in the wind as my heart fluttered in my chest. I took in a deep breath of relief as the wheels of the plane jolted the sand encrusted African pavement. I was back in... Read more

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