Buddhist Catholic Contemplative Evangelical General Christian Hindu Jewish Latter-day Saint Muslim New Visions Progressive Christian

Beliefs

Topics

Columnists

Resource Library

Research Tools

Video

Podcasts

Thought Readers

Faith In Media Tracker

Newsletters

Ad-Free & Subscriber Log-In Subscription Support

Follow Patheos

Home
Catholic
Women in Religion
Saint or Sinner? Don’t Assume You Know!

Saint or Sinner? Don’t Assume You Know!

Last updated on: February 9, 2022 at 8:45 pm by Lois Kerschen

Saint or Sinner? Don’t Assume You Know! 2022-02-09T20:45:42-08:00 Lois Kerschen

LOGO Patheos Explore the world's faith through different perspectives on religion and spirituality! Patheos has the views of the prevalent religions and spiritualities of the world.

My husband and I learned a mortifying lesson about misjudging others when we mistook our saintly neighbor for a sinner.

Newly moved to Houston, we learned that our next-door neighbor, Mr. G, was a retired widower (his wife had died a couple of years before). We observed that his son would come over to visit regularly, often working on cars with his dad.

Sadly, in our neighborhood, people didn’t make much effort to get acquainted, a big city coldness that was disappointing to us. So, we otherwise didn’t get to know Mr. G., but he didn’t seem to go out much.

The Red Mustang Caper

That all changed when Mr. G bought a red Mustang. Uh oh, we thought – he’s going into a second teenagehood! Well, why not enjoy himself with something snazzy?

Photo by Donna Galletta on Unsplash

However, then he started keeping really strange hours. He was going out at night, sometimes very late, and not coming in until the wee hours. I knew because his driveway was right next to my bedroom and, when his headlights hit my windows, I would wake up.

This situation got really irritating. I didn’t appreciate being awakened in the middle of the night. What was going on with Mr. G? Had he gotten lonely and started tomcatting around? Was attracting the ladies the reason for the sporty car?

We had just about gotten to the point of complaining when Mr. G suddenly died of a heart attack. My husband decided to go to the funeral, but I couldn’t get away from work.

The Funeral and Confession

When I came home that day, my husband came running up to me and said, “We are terrible people, and we need to go to confession!”

Much to our surprise, his funeral was held at our parish! Mr. G was Catholic! Our St. Jerome’s was a huge parish, so those of us who went to different Masses had little contact unless we happened to serve on a committee together.

My husband learned from the eulogy that Mr. G had been keeping those odd hours because he had started filling in the vacant times at perpetual adoration!

We were living next door to a saint, but we had made wrong assumptions and thought him to be a carousing sinner!

Rumors, Gossip, Misinformation

Rumors start when people jump to conclusions like we did. That misinformation, in these polarized times, can turn into ugly conflicts. We all need to be very careful about believing anything unsubstantiated. It’s tragic that we are having to become independent researchers to keep from contributing to the problem of conspiracy theorists, fake news, and political mudslinging.

I remember one time in my hometown parish when people noticed that one of our priests seemed to be unsteady on his feet while celebrating Mass. Altar servers reported they smelled alcohol on his breath.

Gossip
Photo by Ben White on Unsplash

The gossip was vicious! It got so bad the parish council demanded an explanation of his behavior. Turned out, the poor innocent man was a diabetic having trouble controlling his blood levels, which can produce an alcohol-like smell in the breath and cause a person to be woozy.

Let me tell you, there was some serious sackcloth and ashes happening around our parish for a while. People were so ashamed of their suspicious behavior, and well they should have been.

The Eighth Commandment Is Definitely Relevant

The eighth commandment applies here: You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor. Assumptions are unverified and therefore could be mistaken.

If you express an assumption or hearsay as fact, you are bearing false witness. Even if you say, “I assume” or “I think,” the listener hears (reads) what was said (or posted) as “likely” – that’s just human nature. By the time the information makes it to the next listener or the listener after that, the “assumption” has hardened into supposed truth.

If we have chosen to be Catholics because we want to follow the truth, then we also need to make a determined effort to speak the truth.

Previous Post

September 16, 2021

Consistent Life Is Catholic

Next Post

September 22, 2021 Perinatal Hospice, Loving Compassion for Parents and Baby

Browse Our Archives

Select a Category Patheos Catholic Uncategorized

Select a Month October 2026 September 2026 July 2026 May 2026 December 2025 November 2025 September 2025 August 2025 July 2025 June 2025 May 2025 April 2025 March 2025 February 2025 August 2024 July 2024 June 2024 May 2024 April 2024 March 2024 February 2024 January 2024 November 2023 September 2023 July 2023 June 2023 February 2023 September 2022 August 2022 July 2022 June 2022 May 2022 April 2022 March 2022 February 2022 January 2022 December 2021 November 2021 October 2021 September 2021 August 2021

TAKE THE

Religious Wisdom Quiz

According to 2 Peter, what are believers partakers of?

Select your answer to see how you score.

Christ's sufferings Eternal glory The divine nature God's kingdom