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So the invitation is to sit with your fear or the insecurity. \u00a0And it\u2019s not easy. It often is better if you go through some type of training or are supported it in some way to know how to sit with your insecurity or fear in a way that is healing.<\/p>\n

We\u2019re human beings and we are actually designed to feel fear. So if you believe, \u201cI shouldn\u2019t feel fear because fear is bad,\u201d then you\u2019re denying that you were built to feel fear. And the reason that we are built to feel fear is because it kept our ancestors alive, in centuries past. It\u2019s part of our human existence. When we accept that it\u2019s normal and okay to be afraid, it can really shift our experience with it.<\/p>\n

It is shame that makes feeling insecurity unhealthy. The word \u201cshame\u201d can mean a lot of different things to different people. I simply mean any thoughts we have that make us feel not good enough. This might happen when we compare ourselves to others or feel down about something that we did or feel down about something that we didn\u2019t do. What\u2019s more, it\u2019s worry that makes experiencing the emotion of fear unhealthy. But the insecurity and the fear on their own is healthy and is actually healing.<\/p>\n

Learn more at TSDMind.org<\/a><\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

When we sit with fear or insecurity in a healthy way, we liberate ourselves from the discomfort. It is amazing. This does not mean that you\u2019ll never feel the discomfort that comes from the fear, again, but it means it won\u2019t affect you in the same way. It doesn\u2019t have as much power over you. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4837,"featured_media":336,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-347","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"yoast_head":"\nThe Truth about Shame, Worry, Insecurity and Fear<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"When we sit with fear or insecurity in a healthy way, we liberate ourselves from the discomfort. It is amazing. 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