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July 2014

July 24, 2014

Premarital Sex and Marital Problems

I've written a lot about my parents decision to have us children court rather than...

July 08, 2014

The Limits of Forgiveness

I was taught that women who had premarital sex could be forgiven for their sin,...

May 2014

May 13, 2014

Gothard’s Sex Rules: Marital Consent? What’s That?

In his textbook, Gothard covers his rules for periodic abstinence during marriage, which centers on...

May 01, 2014

On Masturbating without Lust

Awkward as it may be, over the past several years I've written a number of...

April 2014

April 29, 2014

In Which Christianity Today Goes Halfway (with gifs)

A post about female masturbation recently appeared on Christianity Today's women's section. Christianity Today is...

April 24, 2014

Why Does Purity Culture Leave out Consent?

Samantha Field recently wrote two posts on consent on her blog, Defeating the Dragons. She...

March 2014

March 12, 2014

You Don’t Write Your Kids’ Lives (They Do)

Good gracious, I just came upon a Babble article titled Jessa Duggar Will Have a...

December 2013

December 03, 2013

Testosterone: Biblical Patriarchy’s Kryptonite

Doug Wilson himself blamed Doug Phillips' affair on Phillips' "testosterone"---combined, of course, with references to...

November 2013

November 15, 2013

It depends upon what the meaning of the word “know” is

Doug Phillips has released a "clarification."

October 2013

October 27, 2013

Pulling the Victoria’s Secret Dance

Fundamentalist and conservative evangelical Christianity is weird. Women are taught to dress modestly in public,...

October 10, 2013

The Homosexual Deathstyle; or, A Fixation on Gay Sex

While I don't think it has wide circulation today, Homosexuality: Legitimate, Alternative Deathstyle was pretty...

October 01, 2013

Dear Sister: On Your Thirteenth Birthday

I can't believe you are almost thirteen. I remember holding you in my arms when...

September 2013

September 08, 2013

“Displayed in a Partially Unwrapped Condition”

In which Michael Pearl uses the candy bar analogy.

August 2013

August 28, 2013

The Lesson of the 2013 MTV VMAs: Being Sexual While Female Is Worse Than Being Rapey or Racist

So. Miley Cyrus. It seems she sang a song at the 2013 MTV VMAs. Mostly...

July 2013

July 18, 2013

My Brothers Too: Purity Culture and Double Standards

Every time purity culture issues come up---purity rings, purity balls, saving your first kiss for...

June 2013

June 17, 2013

Rachel Held Evans: Missing the Mark on Sexual Ethics

I honestly don't feel like Rachel's post was clear at all, and perhaps that's because...

June 13, 2013

Dear Little Girl: Jesus Doesn’t Want Your Sex Life

The O2 Experience is an organization that goes around the country giving talks on "Life,...

June 10, 2013

In Which Sally Grasps Contraception

"Mommy, what's this?" In her hand Sally held a condom, still in its wrapper. Sean...

June 06, 2013

Question: What Do Presents, Chocolate Bars, Roses, Chewing Gum, and Packing Tape Have in Common?

Presents, chocolate bars, roses, chewing gum, packing tape---these sorts of metaphors abound in circles where...

May 2013

May 14, 2013

Whence Opposition to Birth Control? An Illustration.

I've written before suggesting that if pro-lifers are consistent, they should be in favor of...

May 06, 2013

Sex and Chewing Gum: The Danger of Purity Culture

Remember how I wrote recently about how the belief that one's virginity is of utmost...

April 2013

April 05, 2013

Ticking Time Bombs of Atomic Hormones

A Guest Post by Abel. But really, what I took to heart from all this...

March 2013

March 28, 2013

The Three Weavers, Part III: The Fathers’ Advice

This story, written a century ago, encapsulated everything I was taught about emotional attachments and...

March 27, 2013

The Three Weavers, part II: How the Story Begins

There were three weavers---Herthold, Hubert, and Hildgardmar---who were neighbors and friends. To each was born...

March 17, 2013

Why Non-Virgins Can’t Have Good Marriages

It's sort of like the social construction of gender, actually. A girl who grows up...

March 16, 2013

More Real World Damage of the Purity Culture

The purity culture urges young people to marry not based on lust or romantic feelings,...

February 2013

February 27, 2013

Smile! Your Mom … Had Sex?

"Smile! Your Mom Chose Life!" I found this slogan very compelling when I opposed abortion....

February 20, 2013

Teenage Boys and Pedophilia: Evangelical Purity Teachings Blur the Line

As a teen, I babysat a lot. Not so my brother. Within evangelicalism, the idea...

February 18, 2013

Forward Thinking: Talking to Teenagers about Sex

In this post I will pull together some of the responses to this month's prompt:...

February 12, 2013

Men Aren’t Sex-Addled Beasts, They’re Just Individuals

As a young conservative evangelical, I was taught that men were visual and easily aroused,...