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March 2014

March 15, 2014

A Living Disappointment

My mom has been doing a good job keeping just how disappointed she is in...

December 2013

December 19, 2013

I Am Not a Child

I'm really not completely sure how to fix this, but watching Hillary made me realize...

April 2013

April 08, 2013

Lost and Found: A Friendship, a Shunning, and an Apology

While I talk a lot about my background here on my blog, I generally maintain...

March 2013

March 07, 2013

Homeschooling under the Influence

After I wrote my posts on academics and socialization, I realized that there is another...

March 04, 2013

Forward Thinking: What Do We Owe Our Parents?

Given that one of the ten commandments orders children to honor their parents, Christianity seems...

March 01, 2013

According to John Shore, I was never a Christian. Huh?

Progressive Christian blogger John Shore just wrote that he doesn't think those who used to...

January 2013

January 30, 2013

Is Abortion a Tragedy?

My view? Abortion isn't a tragedy. The unwanted pregnancy that threatens to completely upturn a...

November 2012

November 27, 2012

Balancing Fear, Love, and Family

Visiting my parents' house is always strange. There are such happy memories around every corner,...

August 2012

August 16, 2012

The Purity Culture and “Lust”

Growing up, "lust" was a big no no. No lusting allowed! Absolutely none! Lust was...

June 2012

June 22, 2012

Raised Quiverfull: Do You Wish You Could Go Back?

Do you sometimes wish to go “back”? Joe: Coming soon. Latebloomer: The further from the...

June 18, 2012

A Broken Father’s Day

Yesterday was Father's Day. I didn't call my dad. Part of me says I should...

June 12, 2012

Raised Quiverfull: Relationship with Family Today

What is your relationship with your parents and siblings like today? What is your relationship...

June 06, 2012

Raised Quiverfull: Struggling with Questions

What did you struggle with most when you were in the midst of questioning and

May 2012

May 13, 2012

Documentaries: The Purity Myth

In putting together my blog's tabs, I've been trying to incorporate documentaries I've found useful...

May 06, 2012

The Purity Culture and Sexual Incompatibility

I was raised in what I call "the purity culture." I knew that some people...

April 2012

April 05, 2012

Emotional Incest, Part 4: The Pain

In Part 1 I discussed the definition of emotional incest (note: it is not sexual);...

March 2012

March 31, 2012

On “unconditional” love with conditions

To all of you who comment - I love you guys. You frequently say things...

March 30, 2012

A reader asks: Am I angry at my parents?

A reader recently asked about my feelings towards my parents: Do you harbor any feelings...

March 08, 2012

Sibling v. Sibling: Giving the Child the Rod

This is part of a series in which I am re-posting a number of posts...

November 2011

November 02, 2011

The Purity Culture and Sexual Dysfunction

I just came upon a post today in which a skeptic Christian blogger responds to...

October 2011

October 22, 2011

An Examination of Emotional Manipulation

My husband brings in the mail. "There's a letter for you," he informs me. "Who...

October 10, 2011

“But What About Socialization?”

This is probably the most common question homeschoolers get. As a child, I was well...

September 2011

September 15, 2011

“Your parents were not incorrect”

I received an anonymous comment today on the last segment of my story from an...

September 10, 2011

“Love Virginity”

I recently came upon post on the blog Forever in Hell (which I highly recommend, though...

July 2011

July 04, 2011

The Beautiful Girlhood Doll, part 10: I’m a Person, Not a Doll!

It has now been some years since I left my parents’ house and shifted for...

July 02, 2011

The Beautiful Girlhood Doll, part 9: The Broken Doll

Soon after this rethinking of my parents’ beliefs, I returned home from college for a...

June 2011

June 27, 2011

The Problem: Parents or Ideology?

After my It’s About the Daughters post was crossposted on No Longer Quivering, I received...

June 24, 2011

Sadness, Not Bittnerness

I don’t want anyone to get the wrong ideas about me or my childhood. My...

June 19, 2011

Cultural Disconnection

My parents thought they were doing me a favor when they chose to homeschool me...