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Hard Conversations: Jesus’ Prayer for a Divided World

Hard Conversations: Jesus’ Prayer for a Divided World

Last updated on: February 3, 2026 at 9:24 am by Jeff McLain

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Hard Conversations: Jesus’ Prayer for a Divided World 2026-02-03T09:24:50-05:00 Jeff McLain

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Hard Conversations: Jesus’ Prayer for a Divided World (Week 1, John 17)

It can be hard to have conversations with people who think differently than we do. Most of us actually don’t know how to have hard conversations well.

Cultural, ideological, personality, and theological differences are inevitable. We encounter them everywhere: on our social media feeds, around the Thanksgiving table, at work, in church communities, at the gym, and in everyday life.

Sometimes those people trigger a reaction in us, and we get very good at sharp one-liners meant to shut things down. Other times, they cause us to withdraw, as if avoidance were a quiet competition we could somehow win.

The truth is simple and uncomfortable: people can be annoying.

I’ve heard it said that people who think they know everything are a great annoyance to those of us who actually do. I’m told there are billions of nerves in the human body, and I’ve met a few people with the uncanny ability to irritate all of them at once.

And if I’m honest, the older I get, the more it feels like I’m drifting toward a zero-percent tolerance for annoying people.

Which raises a question worth considering: **Are people becoming more annoying—**or am I becoming angrier? And what or who is shaping that?

This blog post is based on a sermon I recently preached at River Corner Church. The video at the bottom of the post provides the full sermon. If this is your first time on this blog, I invite you to learn more about me and this blog, and take a minute to introduce yourself so I can get to know you.

A Connected World That Feels Increasingly Reactive

I don’t know exactly what’s driving this moment.

Maybe we’re simply hearing people’s inner thoughts more clearly now, because we are constantly connected through texts, social media, and shared digital spaces.

Maybe the filters that once governed what leaders, presidents, influencers, and institutions knew not to say have eroded. The old wisdom — “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it” — feels quaint in an outrage economy.

Maybe we’ve become more self-centered, more in love with our own voices, opinions, and independence, rewarded by likes, shares, and algorithms that amplify certainty rather than wisdom.

Maybe we’ve been sold a distorted vision of truth that frames us as warriors in cultural battles shaped more by politics, brands, and media than by Jesus.

And maybe generative AI and constant digital noise have made it harder to know what is authentic and what is engineered.

What I do know is this: We are more connected than ever — and more emotionally reactive, more polarized, and more tribal than ever.

That is the world around us.

And increasingly, it is also the world inside the church.

We speak faster than we listen.

We share opinions more than facts.

We hit “post” more often than “power off.”

Why Hard Conversations Matter for the Church

This is why we’re beginning a six-week series called Hard Conversations at River Corner Church.

Hard Conversations is about staying present with one another when life, faith, and relationships get complicated. Instead of withdrawing or reacting in moments of disagreement and difficulty, we are exploring how God calls and equips us to remain united in love — even when we disagree.

Differences of opinion are not the problem. The problem is how easily we confuse volume with truth, outrage with conviction, and sharpness with faithfulness.

Jesus never hid the fact that following him would be hard. Throughout his ministry, he warned his disciples that faithfulness would bring opposition, misunderstanding, and suffering.

But just as clearly, Jesus warned that hard times and differences must not be allowed to divide his followers.

Again and again, Jesus confronted division among his disciples — whether it was arguments about status, power, or proximity to influence. When the disciples mirrored the world’s way of grasping for authority, Jesus simply said, “Not so with you” (Matthew 20:26-28).

Time and time again, the church, Jesus insisted, must look different.

Division Belongs to the World — Not the Church

Jesus taught that reconciliation matters more than religious performance. That worship offered while harboring resentment is incomplete (Matthew 5:24). That judgment hardens hearts. That unresolved conflict corrodes the community.

In Matthew 18, one of the few places where Jesus speaks directly about life in the church, ironically, around conflict, his goal is not punishment but reconciliation — even when accountability and communal wisdom are needed.

Following Jesus may put us at odds with the world. Paul even says the message of the cross will sound foolish to some (1 Corinthians 1:18).

It may even put us at odds with family expectations, cultural norms, and our own sense of control (Luke 14:26).

But that tension with the world must never be mirrored inside the church.

The church is meant to be a prophetic witness — living proof that reconciliation, restoration, unity, and oneness are not only possible, but real.

Jesus’ Prayer in John 17: A Way for Hard Conversations

This vision comes into sharp focus in John 17.

On the night before his arrest, Jesus prays — not just for his disciples, but for all who would believe because of them. That includes us.

This prayer is rich, theological, and deeply honest. Jesus knows the road ahead is dangerous. He knows pressure will mount. He knows conflict with the world is inevitable.

And so he prays not that his followers would be removed from the world, but that they would be sustained in it — sanctified by truth, rooted in God’s presence, and formed into oneness.

Jesus understands something crucial: Living in contrast to the world is dangerous business.

And if we are not careful, that danger will divide us.

That’s why Jesus prays for unity — not as sentimentality, but as survival. Unity protects the church’s witness, effectiveness, and faithfulness.

As John Wimber once said about this prayer, “The good news is that Jesus is praying for you. The bad news is that you’re going to need it.”

Conflict Is Inevitable — Division Is Not

Jesus never promised that following him would remove conflict.

He did warn that conflict, if mishandled, would divide us.

That’s why this series matters.

Most of us default to one of two responses in moments of disagreement: reaction or withdrawal. And often, if we’re married, our spouse defaults the other way.

There are moments to step back.
There are moments to speak up.

But more often than not, faithfulness means stepping forward—listening, staying present, and refusing to reduce people to positions.

We cannot pretend disagreement doesn’t exist.

But we also cannot surrender unity as collateral damage.

Five Affirmations for Hard Conversations

Over the next several weeks, we’ll explore five affirmations meant to shape how we engage disagreement as followers of Jesus:

God has all truth, but we don’t have a perfect understanding of it.
Being loving is as important as being right.
The Spirit can create unity where it once seemed impossible.
We find our identity in Christ, not in our belief systems.
We choose to live faithfully in the already and the not yet.

These affirmations are not about avoiding truth. The scriptures do call us to speak truth — to speak reality to each other — as outlined in Epheisans 4:25. But even there, Paul insists that truth must be spoken in love.

A Simple Practice: STOP

Until we unpack those affirmations more fully, here’s a simple practice for this week — one tool for your spiritual toolbox that is neither reaction nor withdrawal. This is a practical, small step I came up with to help myself and others learn to pause before responding.

STOP

See the image of God in the person you’re engaging.
Trust that their intentions are more complex than their words.
Observe where you share common ground.
Pray a blessing for them — and for unity.

This, I believe, is one small way we begin to live into the prayer Jesus prayed — that we would be one, just as he and the Father are one, as we are sent into the world.

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About Jeff McLain

Jeff McLain is a pastor and writer who reflects on Scripture, the Lord’s Prayer, spiritual formation, and life with God in the margins. His work invites readers toward a quieter, more intentional faith shaped by patience, gratitude, and presence. Jeff serves at Water Street Mission, walking alongside neighbors experiencing homelessness, and pastors River Corner Church in Lancaster, Pennsylvania—a simple community of Jesus followers seeking a faithful, formative way of being the Church. You can read more about the author here.

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