Navigating Life in an Interfaith Family

Last updated on: November 17, 2024 at 11:09 am by Kelley Rouland M.A.

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Navigating Life in an Interfaith Family 2024-11-17T11:09:33-07:00 Kelley Rouland M.A.

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“It is the duty of every cultured man or woman to read sympathetically the scriptures of the world. If we are to respect others’ religions as we would have them respect our own, a friendly study of the world’s religions is a sacred duty.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi

Some journeys are meant to be taken alone.

When I first decided to convert to Judaism I had a little spark of hope that my family would join me; perhaps they might see Judaism through my eyes and want to jump on board.

That wasn’t the case. Although they supported my decision, conversion held no interest for them, and that’s ok. I soon realized how immensely personal our spiritual paths are and that choosing to convert must be done from a place of passion.

The result of my lone journey to Judaism is an interesting and eclectic collection of religious beliefs all under one roof. How does Christianity and Judaism work in the same household? Well, in our case, seamlessly. Here are a few tenets that make interfaith families flourish:

Always be Guided by Love

Love is the solid foundation that builds a happy interfaith household. No matter what we say, do, or believe, God loves us and we must reflect that same love every day. When disagreements happen return to love. When understanding is scarce return to love. When nothing makes sense return to love.

My love for my family far outweighs any variation in religious beliefs, which is one of the primary reasons our interfaith household works. I remember the first time my mother and I discussed my Jewish conversion. She told me she is proud that I am a woman of faith living her truth. Wonderful things happen when love for each other and love for God serve as the foundation of our relationships.

Respect the Beliefs of Others

Most of us are passionate about our faith which can affect how we treat those with different beliefs. We want so badly for others to see faith through our eyes, but everyone has their own path to follow. Although it’s tempting to try to convince close friends and family that our faith is the best, it’s not helpful. It’s important to respect religious differences.

Despite my Jewish conversion, I have respect for my family’s beliefs and respect for the religion I was raised in. Because of the Christian faith, I grew up knowing God’s love in the comfort of a loving home and supportive church. Being raised Christian was a blessing and I will always be grateful for it.

Let Everyone Shine

Every religion has unique traditions and practices that are important to its believers. These include holidays like Christmas for Christians and Hannuka for Jews. Both sacred events ignite a passionate spark in steadfast believers. With all this excitement it can be easy to let yours dominate but in an interfaith home, all must have their time to shine.

In my family, everyone’s faith is represented. As odd as it may seem, visitors to our home during the holidays will see Christmas decorations and menorahs under one roof. I’ve attended Christmas events with my mother and she’s attended Hanukkah celebrations with me. Does it seem strange? Maybe, but it works. Our sharing of religious experiences is done out of love and respect.

Living in a home where multiple religions are practiced is easy when there is love and respect for each other. When everyone is welcome to celebrate and share their faith equally mutual admiration follows.

One common thread that connects the Jewish and Christian faiths is God’s love for his people and his expectation that his people love and treat each other with kindness. When these basic principles are practiced in an interfaith household the result is an understanding and respect that transcends differences in religious beliefs.

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