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July 2013

July 08, 2013

The truth about dead people

A few people have asked me (some kindly, some ... not so much) how I...

June 2013

June 16, 2013

If your Father’s Day isn’t quite so happy

People always say that life is short. And in most ways it certainly is. But...

May 2013

May 29, 2013

Christians in love with non-Christians (and their Christian “friends” who object)

I recently got in this letter: Hey John, I am a Christian young woman engaged...

May 22, 2013

Can this wife abuser change?

Got this in: Hello John, I am an abusive man. I have found many books...

May 11, 2013

Mother’s Day: Raised Too Alone (by John Shore)

If your mother's unhappiness—her pain, her dysfunction, her drama—was more precious to her than you...

May 03, 2013

Love: Like a teacup on the Titanic

Got this in: Hello, Sir! I've read through your work, and especially liked your 2+2=5 post....

April 2013

April 09, 2013

One Man. Two fiancees. One prenup-nup?

In this morning: Hi John, We are three professionals, myself and two women that are...

March 2013

March 20, 2013

Sexual Abuse and the Luck of the Draw

Apropos to my last post, Six Things to Know About Sexual Abuse and Forgiveness, I...

November 2012

November 02, 2012

The miracle of one dog plus lots of love

Hi guys. The letter below is from a good woman I know. It doesn't describe...

October 2012

October 18, 2012

What does a woman mean when she says “I need space”?

Dear John, A good friend of mine suggested I contact you. I am now at...

October 16, 2012

The Bible vs. the bottle

I was raised in a Christian family, and have professed my faith since I was...

August 2012

August 22, 2012

15 Ways to Stay Sane Caring For an Elderly Parent

One of the most emotionally complex and difficult things a person can experience is taking...

June 2012

June 14, 2012

“Seven Reasons Women Stay in Abusive Relationships”: paperback, Kindle sale, review

I'm very pleased to announce that my Seven Reasons Women Stay in Abusive Relationships and...

April 2012

April 26, 2012

“Seven Reasons Women Stay in Abusive Relationships” now in paperback

This book of mine is now available in paperback for $7.99. It's of course also...

April 15, 2012

Is premarital sex okay?

So lately a few college-age people have written to ask what I think about premarital...

March 2012

March 29, 2012

Woman whose 9-year-old was drugged and raped checks in

This just came in, and thought I'd take a moment to share it, for those...

March 21, 2012

61, gay, and closeted: is it too late for him?

So here's a letter I got in: I'm a 61-year-old gay man who is still...

March 20, 2012

She’s abused no more

This morning I received this from a woman named Barb (who is happy to share...

March 13, 2012

“Hop” = no hope (unless you’re white)

All movies---and especially children's movies---have a primary message: good is rewarded; be true to who...

February 2012

February 28, 2012

The Child We Left Behind

This morning Lynne, who wrote the letter which I answered in yesterday's post, As a...

February 23, 2012

1 Man, 2 Women In A Polyamorous Relationship

Sometimes three's a crowd. Sometimes it's not.

February 13, 2012

For mens’ eyes only: The secret to Valentine’s Day

Here's why and how to do Valentine's Day right, guys.

December 2011

December 16, 2011

Joseph to Mary: “Who could believe such a thing?”

A conversation between Mary and Joseph the night before Jesus was born.

December 14, 2011

Low self-esteem? Pffft. Who the [bleep] are you?

So at the conclusion of my last post (Good Friends, or Socially Maladjusted Cretins?), I...

November 2011

November 17, 2011

“We ARE the Message”

Dear Society to Which You, We, She and He All Belong: So we rocked it,...

November 06, 2011

She is not responsible for her husband’s suicide

I received this morning the following heartbreaking letter from a woman named Erin: Dear John,...

October 2011

October 13, 2011

Me, WORK at a Relationship? Pfffft.

I got an email in this morning from a woman feeling guilty about having divorced...

October 10, 2011

Bullying: Putting Your Money Where Their Mouth Is

When we say that we want bullying to stop, what we're in large part saying...

August 2011

August 29, 2011

“Today I Am Still Afraid of Him”

Last night a woman who originally wrote to inquire about access to Seven Reasons sent...

August 27, 2011

When Your Heart Leaves Home

The reflections of a good man upon the occasion of his daughter leaving home for...