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Ruth 3:1-18 True Love

Ruth 3:1-18 True Love

Last updated on: June 2, 2018 at 8:40 pm by Jim Erwin

Ruth 3:1-18 True Love 2018-06-02T20:40:21-05:00 Jim Erwin

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Ruth 3:1-18 – True Love

INTRODUCTION: The Princess Bride – how I love this movie and I think it is the best story of all time.

True Love

In The Princess Bride, Westley is driven by one goal—to return to the love of his life, Buttercup. Westley does whatever it takes for his one “true love.” He scales mountains, fights giants, goes through extreme torture, and even dies – or at least he becomes half-dead. In one scene in the movie, there is this exchange that best shows his “true love” for Buttercup:

Westley: Can you move at all?
Buttercup: Move? You’re alive. If you want, I could fly.
Westley: I told you, “I would always come for you.” Why didn’t you wait for me?
Buttercup: Well … you were dead.
Westley: Death cannot stop true love. All it can do is delay it for a while.
Buttercup: I will never doubt again.
Westley: There will never be a need

“True love is like a pair of socks: you gotta have two and they’ve gotta match.”

Marriage License: A Learner’s Permit

It’s a wise groom who has to be dragged to the altar. He knows what love is. It’s death. If lovers don’t know this, they are headed for trouble. Never will you have your way again. You can’t be happy if this other person isn’t. No matter who wins the argument, you lose. Always. The sooner you learn this the better off you will be.

Love is an exercise in frustration. You leave the window up when you want it down. You watch someone else’s favorite TV program. You kiss when you have a headache. You turn the music down when you like it loud. You learn to be patient without sighing or sulking.

Love’s doing things for the other person. In marriage two become one but the one isn’t you. It’s the other person. You love this person more than you love yourself. This means that you love this person as she or he is. Acceptance. We ask ourselves frankly what that impulse is that makes us want to redesign a person. It isn’t love. We want the other person to be normal like us. But is that loving the other person or ourselves? Love brings out the best in people. They can be themselves without artificiality. People who know they are loved glow with beauty and charm.

Love is funny. Its growth doesn’t depend on what someone does for you. It’s in direct proportion to what you do for him or her.

“Men are from Mars…”, Part 3 – Ephesians 5:23,24”, Countdown! Golden Minutes Ministries Newsletter, (Long Beach, CA, October 1996).

This kind of true love, the true love that Westley displayed for Buttercup, is the kind of true love that is asking for.

I. Ruth asked for true love.

And after Boaz had eaten and drunk, and his heart was cheerful, he went to lie down at the end of the heap of grain; and she came softly, uncovered his feet, and lay down. Now it happened at midnight that the man was startled, and turned himself; and there, a woman was lying at his feet. And he said, “Who are you?” So she answered, “I am Ruth, your maidservant. Take your maidservant under your wing,[1] for you are a close relative.” Then he said, “Blessed are you of the LORD, my daughter! For you have shown more kindness at the end than at the beginning, in that you did not go after young men, whether poor or rich. (Ruth 3:7-10 NKJV)

What about this strange middle of the night encounter? What is the deal with taking off his sandals? What was this about? What was Ruth thinking?

Apparently, the “uncovering the feet” had a significance that Noami had known. It was a sign of interest that Ruth would have for Boaz. This was a woman’s way of saying she was interested in a man. Strange as it may seem, it was not sexual at all. Because after she took his shoes off and laid beside him, he knew exactly what to do. Boaz knew that Ruth was interested in him. You see it in the the response he says to her. He realizes that she is a very young woman, and that he is not a young man. He is much older than her. As a result, Boaz knows that Ruth has decided to love him even though he is an older man.

And you can’t look at it like this Anna Nicole Smith – a very young lady who married a 80-year old man just for his money. She really had true love in mind for Boaz.

There was this custom for widows who were left without a son to continue the family line. It was called the Levirate Marriage custom. Naomi basically asked Ruth to ask for Boaz as her husband. Boaz would know that since Ruth is a close relative, there was an obligation to take care of the family. Boaz knew that Ruth would come asking for this request. She needed someone like Boaz to continue the family line.

Ruth asked for Boaz to take her as his wife. Ruth asked for true love from Boaz. She wanted him to be like Westley in The Princess Bride. Will Boaz do everything and anything for her? This is what Ruth is asking. She is asking Boaz for true love.

Are you asking?

II. Boaz answered the call of true love.

Look at what Boaz does. He does not misuse the opportunity. He could have easily misused Ruth. He could have taken advantage of the midnight encounter. Instead, he does not. He answers the call of true love. He responds with integrity.

True love is NOT:

A sexual encounter.
A wish list of wants and desires.
A living-together agreement or business transaction

True love is deciding to take responsibility and do what is necessary for the person God has put with you. True love is answering the call of your spouse when she or he asks. Just as Buttercup asked and Westley answered, just as Ruth asked Boaz and he answered, so men must be ready to answer.

Are you answering the call?
III. The Kinsman-Redeemer as a picture of Christ fulfills true love.

In this story, a poor widow named Naomi, returns home without a penny to her name. In order that she can be taken care for, she needs a relative who is willing to redeem her. This means that she needs someone who will pay the price that is necessary to take her out of her physical poverty, and give her an inheritance. This inheritance is not just a financial payment, but also an obligation to bring a son. Only a son will continue the family line and ensure that the widow will be remembered.

In this story, there is a man who is able to do this for Naomi. His name is Boaz. But there is another relative who is more closely related to Naomi. It probably was so that Boaz was the younger brother. We do not know for sure. All we know is that this “unnamed relative” is able to pay the price to redeem Naomi. However, at some point in the story, he discovers that paying the price will hurt his own inheritance with his own immediately family. The Bible makes no explanation as to how this can happen. But the point is clear. The way is made for Boaz to take care of Noami and take a wife in Ruth.

Boaz realizes that in order to do this, he will have to be the Kinsman-Redeemer. Boaz will take full responsibility for his wife Ruth. He will provide for her and her family (Naomi.) He will pay the financial price necessary to save her family from eternal ruin. He will lead her and teach her and help her. He will provide an inhe

ritance that will last her entire life. She will be taken care of. He will also provide her a son. Boaz as the Kinsman-Redeemer displays true love for Ruth and Naomi.

Boaz as a the Kinsman-Redeemer is a picture of what Jesus Christ has done for us.

Christ makes God’s true love for me possible.

Today we had a Christmas presentation by the children. Right now they are downstairs having a party. Santa Claus is down there right now. He is giving out presents. Traditionally during this time before Christmas, children can come up to Santa and share their wishes for Christmas. This reminds me of a story:

Redemption, Through Christ: Charge It!
A little girl was sitting on Santa Claus’ lap. She gave him a whole list of expensive toys which she wanted for Christmas and then without a word of appreciation, she jumped off Santa’s lap and started toward her mother. Her concerned mother spoke quickly, “Honey, haven’t you forgotten something?” The little girl thought for a moment, then said, “O, yes.” Then turning back toward Santa, she shouted, “Charge it.”

God has already “charged” our sins to His Son Jesus and Jesus has paid the debt in full. What more could you ask for at Christmas?
Do you know how much Jesus wants to fulfill true love? Do you want to accept the gift of life He gives you this Christmas by His payment of your sins?
IV. I commit to true love with God when I commit my life to His Son Jesus Christ.

The most selfless act that done for you was done by God. He sent His Son at Christmas time. God gave up His only Son. God acted in true love by giving up what was most precious to Him – Jesus Christ. God could have prevented the pain and suffering of the cross that His Son would go through. But God knew the same important truth that Westley in The Princess Bride knew – true love is stronger than death. So God raised Jesus back from the dead. In doing that, God made a way for you and I to come to Him in true love.

But that can only happen when we place our trust in Jesus Christ. He is the only way to true love with God. We have to charge all of our sins to His account, confess that we need Him, and let Him pay the bill. In return, we let Jesus take care of all of our life accounts. All of our life is given to Jesus – to lead me and guide me. I give up the penalty of my sin through forgiveness. I give up control of my life to Jesus. This is the act of true love that God requires of me.

This is what Christmas is all about. Christmas is about true love. Jesus came to show true love. We come to Jesus to accept that true love.

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