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September 2017

September 21, 2017

The Root Cause of Self-Harming Behavior in the LGBTQI Community

Cutting, drug-abuse, suicide. Way too often we hear the tragic story of another LGBTQI person...

July 2015

July 17, 2015

It’s Family Vacation. Everyone’s Here and Having Fun. Except Her.

You lie to the kids about why she is not here. It's the family vacation...

July 10, 2015

Dear Susan: God Tells Us To Judge Each Other… Right?

Are we supposed to judge each other? Doesn't God tell us to do that? Aren't...

May 2015

May 15, 2015

Are You Leading People Astray by Supporting Gays?

Nothing quite like being told that I am rewriting the word of God - like...

May 08, 2015

My Family is Using the Bible to Condemn My Gay Son – How Can I Respond?

Have you ever had someone come at you - judging and condemning your gay children?...

May 01, 2015

Dear Susan: My “Welcoming” Church is Not So Welcoming After All

Remember Princess Bride, when Vizzini keeps saying things are “inconceivable” just before they happen? Montoyo...

April 2015

April 24, 2015

Dear Susan: I Have To Lie About Being Gay. Am I Wrong?

This may reach down and touch deep places in the hearts and souls of many...

April 17, 2015

Dear Susan: A Valid Marriage Is About Procreation, Right?

Sometimes I wonder if people really think through things. Where is the heart? The question...

April 03, 2015

Dear Susan: How Can You Compare Marriage Equality to the Civil Rights Movement? That’s Ridiculous!

Sometimes people just don't want to face the truth. They deny facts, history, scripture -...

March 2015

March 27, 2015

Dear Susan: My Partner’s Parents Are Not Supportive. How Can I Best Help Her?

I love love. It gets tricky sometimes, doesn't it? Fear can sneak up on us,...

March 20, 2015

Dear Susan: Are You Twisting the Bible to Justify Your Beliefs?

We hear it a lot... "You are twisting scripture so you can justify homosexuality." I...

March 13, 2015

Dear Susan: Why Do Gays Think Christians Hate Them?

What?? I know, I know, I had the same reaction... Is she serious?? But she...

March 06, 2015

Dear Susan: My Gay Child Says, “Accept All of Me, or None of Me!” What Do I Do?

A pastor, his newly-out LGBTQ child, his wife, family members, his daughter's future family -...

February 2015

February 13, 2015

Dear Susan: Am I Not Loving Gays When I Tell Them the “Truth” About Their Sin?

You've heard the phrases... confronting people in their sin, tough love, speaking the truth in...

February 06, 2015

Dear Susan: Gays Are NOT Being Kicked Out of Churches. You’re Making it Up!

To stand at the church door and block someone from entering because they are gay...

January 2015

January 30, 2015

Dear Susan: After 15 Years, My Church Kicked Me Out Because I’m Gay!

I have to admit that I am losing patience. To stand at the church door...

January 09, 2015

Dear Susan: Is My Gay Son Separated From God?

Even before we came out as parents of a gay child, and as allies and...

January 02, 2015

Dear Susan: Is Reparative Therapy a Good Thing?

Have you heard of "reparative therapy?" Ex-gay camps? Where they "cure" the gay out of...

December 2014

December 19, 2014

Dear Susan: Is My Gay Child’s DNA Messed Up?

Do we as parents look for reasons why we can "justify" our love for our...

December 12, 2014

Dear Susan: Should I Worry About My Family’s Response?

When we are someone who much of the church has labeled as wrong, "the others",...

December 05, 2014

Dear Susan: Should I Talk to the Pastor About Our Gay Son?

You are a Christian, and your child comes out as gay. Where is the first...

November 2014

November 21, 2014

Dear Susan: How Does God REALLY Feel About Gays?

I love answering this question... 'How does God really feel about gays?' It is an...

November 14, 2014

Dear Susan: My Son is Gay & My Daughter Supports Him. Are My Kids Going to Hell?

What is wrong with people?!? What level of arrogance and fear does it take to...

November 07, 2014

Dear Susan: What If You’re Wrong?

Are we so terrified of an angry God that we choose to err of the...

October 2014

October 24, 2014

Dear Susan: You Are Endorsing What God Calls an Abomination

What kind of love is it to call a fellow human being, maybe even your...

October 17, 2014

Dear Susan: I Was Born Female, But Know I Am Male. Can God Approve Of Me?

Trapped in the "wrong" body? Forced to live in a way that contradicts the gender...

October 10, 2014

Dear Susan: Are Gays God’s Second-Best?

Too many in the non-affirming church say this type of thing... Gays are just born...

October 03, 2014

Dear Susan: What About Sleepovers?

As parents of LGBTQ children, sometimes we are just starting to be at peace with...

September 2014

September 26, 2014

Dear Susan: Does My Gay Son Have a Reprobate Mind?

"Does my gay son need to come back to a normal life? Did God give...

September 19, 2014

Dear Susan: Is Christianity Selfish?

I write Dear Susan posts every Friday. Sometimes they will be poignant, sometimes thought-provoking, sometimes...