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The Truth Is: God Is Not Interested in Our Obedience

The Truth Is: God Is Not Interested in Our Obedience

Last updated on: June 19, 2015 at 9:35 pm by Susan Cottrell

The Truth Is: God Is Not Interested in Our Obedience 2015-06-19T21:35:48-05:00 Susan Cottrell

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One of the biggest lies perpetrated throughout Christendom is that God is primarily interested in our obedience. Not true. Patently false. To say our first responsibility to God is to obey is a big fat lie and distortion of the relationship God wants with us. God’s paramount interest in us is a relationship. Didn’t Jesus say repeatedly, “Follow me!”?

Let’s say that a couple is about to have their first child, and you say to them conversationally, “What is most exciting to you about having a baby?” and they answer, “Making sure this child obeys!” You’d be shocked. Really? That is the main point in having a child?

You would feel like saying, “Have you considered getting a dog instead? Or stick with birdwatching? BECAUSE YOU WILL BE DISASTROUS PARENTS!!!” You would wisely identify that something is seriously wrong, and you would want to suggest they run, not walk, to a qualified therapist who could help them unravel this unhealthy obsession with power and rule.

The amazing thing about bringing a baby into the world is the new life this person gets to emerge into, and the astounding relationship we get to enjoy with them!

That’s the main point.

Anyone whose primary interest is that their child obey them is a narcissistic sociopath. And we have certainly seen evidence of that in the news recently.

Do we want our child to learn to heed our voice, lest they burn their hand on the stove or dart in the street and get smacked by a car? Of course! Because all of that protects them and facilitates relationship. But that is not the same as enforcing “first-time obedience” in some sort of patriarchal power structure so they know who’s boss.

Humans in their folly can be very drawn to fortifying their power this way. Some of us endured parents (or coaches, teachers, pastors) who imposed their will in the name of “obedience to authority.” And we wonder why many of us have “authority issues”?

Yeah, we can stop wondering! This path leads to death – of the soul of the one made to submit, and to the relationship itself.

God created us for community.

Blind obedience to parents, to a pastor, to the Bible, is not healthy. It’s idolatry.

If we are here to be obedient, wouldn’t Jesus have been delighted with the religious leaders of his day? They were extremely obedient, but without love.

Indeed, they were the only group Jesus blasted, for their selfish, prideful and loveless focus on legalistic adherence to rules without relationship. Remember, it’s God’s kindness that leads us to repentance. Kindness is relational. You can be kind only in relationship.

We are here on planet earth to be in relationship – with God and others. We are here on planet earth to love – God and others.

Period.

UPDATE: God IS interested in our obedience! 🙂 Read Part II.

*Artwork courtesy of Gwen Meharg, DrawNearToGod.com

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