Looking Outward Together

Last updated on: June 21, 2012 at 8:39 am by Susan Cottrell

Looking Outward Together 2012-06-21T08:39:23-05:00 Susan Cottrell

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 Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction. Antoine de Saint-Exupery

I’ve read this quote several times as I’ve been completing my marriage book, a beautiful thought from the author who gave us The Little Prince. I love the idea of it — gazing off together toward a common goal. But suddenly today, it hit me anew. You see, I’ve been writing that we cannot look to each other to be the Savior in our lives. Early in marriage, when things are new and beautiful, we do look to the other to meet our needs — why else did we marry them? Over time, as things begin to fall apart, we blame them for not meeting our needs! But both views are flawed to begin with.

Only God’s revelation shows us we were never meant to gaze at our spouses to provide the good or prevent the bad. Only our true Savior can do that. He provides the good as a gift and He allows the bad to push us to Him. Our spouse never could save us. But to look together at our Savior — ah, there’s something that will sustain for a long, long time!

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