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When we insist on rowing
\nwith just one oar, we go
\naround in circles.<\/p>\n
This is what happens
\nwhen we insist that
\nwe are right.<\/p>\n
When we refuse to walk
\nwith some form of light,
\nwe bump around
\nin the dark.<\/p>\n
This is what happens
\nwhen we react
\nwithout listening.<\/p>\n
When we cling, our
\nhands stay closed and
\nwe can hold nothing.<\/p>\n
This is what happens
\nwhen we are defensive.<\/p>\n
It seems a modern condition:
\nto row in circles in the dark
\nwhile clinging to what we
\nthink we know.<\/p>\n
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A Question to Walk With: Describe your struggle with being defensive and hidden.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n
This is from my book of poems in progress, This Slow Quick Dance.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n
\n
Mark will be offering retreats, free events, and a few special journeys in 2024. Here\u2019s the list of what\u2019s coming up!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n
June 28-30: Falling Down and Getting Up: Discovering Your Inner Resilience and Strength, <\/b>weekend retreat at the Omega Institute<\/span>,<\/b> Rhinebeck, NY For more information or to register, click <\/span>here<\/span><\/a>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n
July 21, 28, & Aug 4, 2024 | Finding Inner Courage: Our Walk in the World***
***\n<\/b>A 3-Session Online Webinar with Mark Nepo <\/b>To register visit <\/span>Live.MarkNepo.com<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n
July 31 6pm ET:<\/b>\u00a0 <\/span>FREE EVENT<\/b> You Don\u2019t Have to Do It Alone: The Net of Friendship<\/b>, reading and conversation followed by 45 minute river walk at the <\/span>Kalamazoo Nature Center<\/span><\/a>. Free event. <\/span>Please register in advance here<\/span><\/a>.\u00a0 <\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n
Aug 16-18: You Don\u2019t Have to Do It Alone: The Net of Friendship, <\/b>weekend retreat, at Mercy By the Sea,<\/span> 167 Neck Rd, Madison, CT.\u00a0 For more information or to register, click <\/span>here<\/span><\/a>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n
Sept 8 11am PT\/2pm ET \u2013 FREE ONLINE EVENT You Don\u2019t Have to Do It Alone: The Power of Friendship, Join Mark Nepo with Joel Fotinos in Conversation, <\/b>hosted by Banyen Books & Sound. Register for this free event <\/span>here<\/span><\/a>.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n
Sept 16\u201321: <\/b>You Don\u2019t Have to Do It Alone<\/b> You Don\u2019t Have to Do It Alone: The Power of Friendship<\/b>, <\/span>a Mastery Week Retreat <\/b>at the Modern Elder Academy in Santa Fe, New Mexico. Click <\/span>here<\/span><\/a> to get information and to register.<\/span><\/p>\n
Sept 29 1pm PT\/4pm ET: <\/b>You Don\u2019t Have to Do It Alone with Mark Nepo in Conversation with Brooke Warner, <\/b>this online ticketed event is hosted by <\/span>Book Passage. Register <\/span>here<\/span><\/a> for the zoom link.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n
Nov 1-3:<\/b>, <\/span>You Don\u2019t Have to Do It Alone: The Net of Friendship<\/b> weekend retreat at Harmony Hill Retreat Center, Union WA. Click <\/span>here<\/span><\/a> for information on registering\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n
Dec 8\u201314: <\/b>This retreat is being rescheduled for 2025. Date to be determined***
***\n<\/b>Saying Yes to Life: The One Life We\u2019re Given, <\/b>a weeklong retreat in Costa Rica, hosted by Global Journeys. Stay tuned! Info will be updated <\/span>here<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n
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