Mars, Venus, or Earth? What Planet are Men and Women REALLY From?

Last updated on: May 3, 2013 at 9:39 am by Rachael Popcak and Dr. Gregory Popcak

Mars, Venus, or Earth? What Planet are Men and Women REALLY From? 2013-05-03T09:39:50-05:00 Rachael Popcak and Dr. Gregory Popcak

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I love this article. It is a terrific, thoughtful, scientific, and ultimately, (unintentionally) very Catholic view of the differences between the sexes. When most people talk about gender differences, they lapse into useless stereotypes. For instance, “Women like to talk and men don’t” Really? So if a man likes to talk to his friends does that make him less manly? Or how about another example, “Men like to solve problems and women like to talk about problems.” Really? Women don’t want to solve their problems? And if a woman is good a problem-solving, does that make her masculine? Of course not.

Whether this article’s conclusions are absolutely spot-on or not (and I do think they are pretty good) it is at least asking the right questions. If we’re going to talk about gender differences I think it is important to distinguish between dimensional differences (i.e., things that are often, but not necessarily, different between men and women) and taxonic differences (i.e., things that are almost always different between men and women).

Catholics argue that men’s and women’s differences are “complementary.” That is, the differences between men and women are intended, not to separate or confuse them, but to help them serve each other and understand each other better. When we view dimensional differences as taxonic, we exaggerate how difficult it is for men and women to be the partners to each other that God intended them to be. Here’s an example that illustrates these two types of differences from the article.

Let’s say you have a new job at a mall. You have been put in charge of directing people to the restroom when they ask where it is. But you only get to know one piece of information about a person to tell them where to go when they need to go. You do not get to see or hear the person needing direction. You just know one small piece of information. It’s really a strange job, but in these times, you hang onto what you can.

Okay, on day one of your new job, you get to know how physically strong a person is before you decide which way to send him or her. In your awesomeness, you send most people to the right restroom. You miss some, but you are mostly on a roll. On the next day, you only get to know the scores of people on a little paper and pencil test of assertiveness. Therefore, you only really know how assertive each person thinks he or she is. It’s a much harder day and you do pretty poorly. In fact, you send people to the wrong restroom 45% of the time. Ouch. There are complaints. But you have renewed hope about the third day because, on the third day, you will get to know how much people say they love to have just sit and talk with their best friends before deciding which restroom to send them off to use. It will be a better day.

The strength difference really works more like a difference in type. An individual’s level of assertiveness is just not very informative about if they are a male or a female.

Check out the article and then, if you want to learn more about how men and women were intended to work together and how you can live that reality in your marriage, check out For Better…FOREVER! A Catholic Guide to Lifelong Marriage.

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