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A Faith Reflection for Weary Mothers

A Faith Reflection for Weary Mothers

Last updated on: June 3, 2026 at 3:11 pm by Christine Moriarty Field

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A Faith Reflection for Weary Mothers 2026-06-03T15:11:35-05:00 Christine Moriarty Field

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There is a verse I kept reading during the hardest years of my life that I somehow managed to misapply for a very long time.

Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matt. 11:28

I read it as comfort. As reassurance that God saw my exhaustion and cared about it. Which is true — but I missed the deeper instruction embedded in those words entirely.

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He wasn’t just offering to sit with me in my weariness. He was offering to take the burden. And I kept refusing to hand it over.

The Savior Complex Nobody Talks About in Church

There is a particular version of over-functioning that thrives in communities of faith, and it’s rarely called what it actually is.

We call it dedication. Sacrifice. Servant-heartedness. We celebrate the woman who holds everything together, who shows up for every crisis, who never stops interceding and intervening and pouring herself out for the people she loves.

But sometimes — and I say this as someone who lived it for decades — what looks like sacrificial love is actually a quiet refusal to trust God with the people we love most.

When I was in the thick of my daughter’s addiction, I prayed constantly. But my prayers had a particular shape — they were really instructions. Lord, here is what needs to happen. Here is the timeline. Here is the outcome I need You to produce. And while I was waiting for God to follow my directions, I was simultaneously doing everything in my power to manage the situation myself.

I wasn’t surrendering. I was delegating — to a God I wasn’t entirely sure I trusted to handle this without my help.

What Surrender Actually Looks Like

Genuine surrender is not passive. It is not giving up or checking out or deciding you no longer care what happens to the people you love.

It is the active, daily, sometimes hourly choice to release your grip on outcomes that were never yours to control — and trust that the God who knit your child together in the womb has not lost track of them in their adulthood.

It is saying I release them into Your hands and meaning it, even when your fingers don’t want to let go.

It is recognizing — really recognizing, in your bones — that there is only one Savior in this story. And the crushing exhaustion you’ve been living with might be, at least in part, the weight of trying to be something you were never created to be.

The Freedom on the Other Side

I won’t pretend that releasing control felt like immediate peace. It felt terrifying. It felt irresponsible. It felt like I was abandoning my child at the moment she needed me most.

But what I discovered on the other side of that release — slowly, imperfectly, with many moments of grabbing the burden back and having to lay it down again — was something I can only describe as grace made tangible.

My daughter began to face her own consequences. My nervous system began to calm. My prayers changed shape — less instruction, more genuine conversation with a God I was finally beginning to trust.

And I began to understand, in a way I hadn’t before, what it actually means to love someone the way God loves us — fully, faithfully, and without removing every difficulty that might ultimately be part of their becoming.

You were made to love deeply. You were not made to carry everything. There is a difference — and learning to live inside that difference might be the most faithful thing you do this season.

Let’s Discuss: What does surrender look like for you right now? What would it mean to truly release someone you love into God’s hands today?

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