Then When Your Dreams Come True…the Trauma

Last updated on: February 3, 2018 at 2:02 am by Matthew Tan

Then When Your Dreams Come True…the Trauma 2018-02-03T02:02:40+10:00 Matthew Tan

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The old cliche goes that the other most terrible thing in the world is getting what you desire.

Many of us know the experience that Aristotle (via Martha Nussbaum’s reading of his Poetics) called the tragedy of “impeded action” (on this see Nussbaum’s 1992 essay “Tragedy and Self-sufficiency“). More specifically, we know that dreadful feeling of our desire slamming into the wall of limitations created by circumstances beyond our control. We feel that our worlds, or rather the delicate possible worlds that we have created in our hearts and heads, have come crashing down upon the slightest tap against it wrought by cruel reality. If the lack of fulfilment of our desires is a tragedy, it stands to reason that its opposite – the fulfilment of our desire – would mean a universe of untold bliss, right?

…Right…?

The cliche that equates the fulfilment of desire with tragedy is often taken to mean the unforseen ill effects that are the unpleasant anomaly to an otherwise blissful state. To this, the beginning of chapter 8 of James Alison’s Raising Abel gives another more fundamental and – arguably more unsettling – account of what fulfilled desire does.

In his chapter on Christian hope, Alison looks at Mark’s account of the women who, upon seeing the empty tomb and being told of Jesus’ resurrection, fled the tomb in fear. Now think about it, here was the man whom many, including these women, regarded as the Messiah, and one would think that seeing that the man they thought was dead was anything but would be an occasion of rejoicing. Instead, Alison observes pointedly that the reaction of the women, and also of the disciples who would later see him, was one of terror. The reason for this terror, Alison explains, is that the fulfilment of hope (here it is the hope of a life without death in a deathless God), does not exactly fill us with joy because we do not have the tools to fathom it. Indeed, the irruption of this life without death removes “the fragile but real security is offered by life in the shadow of death” (162), in other words, the lifeworlds and the symbols and processes they deploy that have proven to be comforting, though not effective, mechanisms to cope with tragedy. In psychoanalytic terms, the breaking through of this zone of psychological familiarity is defined as trauma.

One can expand the application to the idea of fulfilled desire since, in the face of many a frustration, we have developed an architecture of coping mechanisms – again, probably not objectively helpful but subjectively effective – to deal with the tragedy of unfulfilled desire. If Alison is correct, then the fulfilment of desire, like new wine to an old wineskin, brings with it the capacity to shatter that architecture, leaving us naked and unable to process the experience or the implications of having our deepest desires fulfilled. Worse still, when we are so habituated into a lifeworld of frustrating yet comforting coping mechanisms, we might have to face the terror of constructing from scratch a whole other universe that would do justice to a circumstance where what fulfils our desire irrupts into our universe.

We see this terror in the all-too-trivialised experience of “cold feet” in the face of burgeoning romantic love developing the long term commitment of marriage. Either one or both parties develops the terror that comes with the realisation that the way of life – simpler, more comfortable, more predictable – that they have lived in and grown accustomed to with can no longer hold in the face of the new life together with one’s spouse. Moreover, the process of construction of this new lifeworld to hold and make sense of the new joint life of the spouses is will, contrary to the intentions of the family, constantly fail and require revisiting.

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