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September 2017

September 27, 2017

Wives, Fill Up Your Husband’s Mental Instagram

Dear Shaunti: I read your book, For Women Only, and one thing you said scared...

August 2017

August 18, 2017

Guys, This Is What Women Really Want

Guys, women can seem SO complicated. How can you know what’s really in her mind?...

August 14, 2017

How to Surprise Your Wife In Ways That Will Delight Her

Men, have you ever been surprised when you’ve tried to surprise your wife? I heard just...

July 2017

July 12, 2017

3 Simple Compliments That Will Please Your Wife

Husbands, do you want to know what goes on inside your wife’s head? And do...

August 2016

August 25, 2016

Men, Avoid This Sneaky Trap That Will Kill Your Marriage

Last week, speaking primarily to women, we revealed the sneaky trap that will quietly but...

February 2016

February 10, 2016

Women: Three phrases to never say to your husband

Ladies, if there were a reality TV show like “What NOT to Wear,” but for...

January 2016

January 27, 2016

Some hysterical memes about the differences between men and women

People always send me memes about the differences between men and women. Some of them...

January 19, 2016

Men: Four phrases that make you a hero to your wife

Guys, I know from the For Men Only research that you want to make your wife...

November 2015

November 12, 2015

Is your wife asking, “Are we okay?” 4 triggers that make her feel insecure in your relationship

1. Conflict. For most guys, conflict is just conflict; it is fairly easy to put...

August 2015

August 31, 2015

Actions Don’t Always Speak Louder than Words: How Should You Affirm Your Wife?

Dear Shaunti, I’m in hot water. My wife is the most beautiful, amazing woman I...

December 2014

December 29, 2014

Tell Your Drama to Your Mama (or Your Girlfriends)

Dear Shaunti: I’m always balancing my roles as a mom, wife and businesswoman, but I...

August 2014

August 11, 2014

Prep Time In the Bathroom Could Pay Off In the Bedroom

Dear Shaunti: I used to really look forward to our Friday night date nights, but...

April 2014

April 21, 2014

Don’t Force Your Sex Life into Hibernation Mode By Choosing Sleep Over Sex

Dear Shaunti, We have young kids, and often I’m so exhausted that I just want...

April 07, 2014

Hard Truths are Still True: Taking Care of Yourself Shows You Care for Your Marriage

Dear Shaunti, I can hardly write this, I’m so upset by one of your columns....

April 03, 2014

Beyond the Candlelight: Finding Romance In Unusual Places

Dear Shaunti, I wish my husband were more romantic. I love spending time with him—we...

March 2014

March 31, 2014

Gain Respect By Being Direct

Dear Shaunti, How do I get my wife to not play games, and just share...

March 20, 2014

Being the Bigger Person in “The Little Things”: Showing Your Wife that You Care

Dear Shaunti, I work long hours at a power plant, and my wife often sends...

March 13, 2014

Rip Up Your Laundry List: No Husband Wants a Scorekeeper

Dear Shaunti, I love my wife, but I really hate her “things you do wrong”...

March 06, 2014

Good Dates Begin With Good Compliments

Dear Shaunti, I’m in deep soup with my wife, and I don’t know why. We...

February 2014

February 27, 2014

Worn Out from Worry: How Can I Help My Wife Stop Obsessing?

Dear Shaunti, I love my wife, but it drives me crazy when she obsesses over...

February 24, 2014

Throw Him a Bone When He Picks up the Broom

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I have been getting irritated with each other lately. He...

February 20, 2014

Looking for Approval? Start By Praising Your Provider Husband

Dear Shaunti, I’m a working mom with two kids. We have a comfortable lifestyle, no...

February 17, 2014

Love in the Blender: Appreciating Your Husband’s Gift-Giving Style

Dear Shaunti, I was really looking forward to our second Valentine's Day together, until...

February 13, 2014

Priming Your Wife for Primetime

Dear Shaunti, It seems like I am always the one to initiate sex. Even when...