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October 2017

October 23, 2017

Want a happy marriage? 3 Ways to Nix All Marriage Negativity

There’s a couple I know who just seems to have their act together. They’re a...

April 2016

April 01, 2016

Secret #7 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Sign Language to Reconnect

Marriages aren't made or broken through dramatic gestures. It's the small, everyday actions and choices...

March 2016

March 04, 2016

Secret #5 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Boss Your Feelings

Marriages aren't made or broken through dramatic gestures. It's the small, everyday actions and choices...

February 2016

February 12, 2016

Secret #4 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Keep Score

Marriages aren't made or broken through dramatic gestures. It's the small, everyday actions and choices...

November 2015

November 02, 2015

Believing the Best Isn’t Letting Him Off the Hook

Dear Shaunti, In one of your books, you say it’s important to believe the best...

October 2015

October 07, 2015

Realistic Tips for Reeling Him Back In

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I have been married 22 years and I love him,...

September 2015

September 22, 2015

Time to Hang up the Hurt, Hang out Together, and Hang On

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I have been married for 20 years. I still care...

August 2015

August 03, 2015

Does being “all-in” mean not having boundaries?

Dear Shaunti, I just finished your book The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages, and...

July 2015

July 13, 2015

Spill Out Your Secrets To Fill Up Your Marriage

Dear Shaunti, Just before I got married, my grandmother presented me with a check –...

July 06, 2015

Did Tiger Woods and Lindsey Vonn REALLY break up because of “time?”

View image | gettyimages.com Dear Shaunti, My wife and I got into a “discussion” the...

June 2015

June 22, 2015

Complaining kills, but discussion heals

Dear Shaunti, I know you’re a researcher, but I think most marriage researchers are off...

June 10, 2015

Should I read my wife’s texts?

Dear Shaunti, My wife is the best person I know; she’s funny, warm, affectionate, and...

June 01, 2015

Don’t Let “Facebook Fantasies” Ruin Your View Of Your Spouse

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I have started arguing a lot about how much I...

April 2015

April 20, 2015

2 is better than 1: Facing Conflict Together

Dear Shaunti, I work a lot of hours, and when I’m at home, I don’t...

March 2015

March 23, 2015

Negative wife? Here’s how to stop the cycle!

Dear Shaunti: My wife and I are making a concerted effort to improve our marriage....

February 2015

February 23, 2015

Face Conflict Head On Even When You Want to Peace-Out

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I never used to fight, but there have been a...

November 2014

November 24, 2014

When Sleeping Handsome ruins a date night

Dear Shaunti: I’m so angry with my husband that I could spit. Every now and...

August 2014

August 18, 2014

How Do I Respect My Husband When He Makes So Many Mistakes?

Dear Shaunti, I really struggle with the whole ‘respect your husband’ thing you talk about...

July 2014

July 21, 2014

Be Grateful For His Creativity Rather Than Grumpy About His Clutter

Dear Shaunti, My husband seems to miss the point of giving me “down time.” When...