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October 2017

October 04, 2017

Kiss and Make Up? Not So Fast.

So, guys, you’ve just had a big fight with your wife and now you’re ready...

February 2016

February 15, 2016

Why not take the test drive? The case against cohabitation

I’m a pastor who works with young couples. As you know, most people live together...

November 2015

November 02, 2015

Believing the Best Isn’t Letting Him Off the Hook

Dear Shaunti, In one of your books, you say it’s important to believe the best...

October 2015

October 29, 2015

Guys wonder: do compliments really matter? Three things your wife is secretly thinking:

“Am I beautiful?” You may think your wife is beautiful, adorable, sexy, and you love to...

June 2015

June 01, 2015

Don’t Let “Facebook Fantasies” Ruin Your View Of Your Spouse

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I have started arguing a lot about how much I...

May 2015

May 11, 2015

Should I Pray For God to Make Me More … Um … Amorous?

Dear Shaunti, Since sex is so important to my husband, and since you say it’s...

April 2015

April 20, 2015

2 is better than 1: Facing Conflict Together

Dear Shaunti, I work a lot of hours, and when I’m at home, I don’t...

March 2015

March 30, 2015

Don’t freak out when your man handles an argument….like a man

Dear Shaunti: My husband and I haven’t been married very long, and I am scared...

March 16, 2015

Make-Up Sex: Does it Exist Beyond the Locker Room?

Dear Shaunti, The other day, I got into a big fight with my wife. In...

October 2014

October 06, 2014

Re-Walking Down the Aisle: Overcoming Second-Marriage Skepticism

Dear Shaunti, I’ve been dating a wonderful man for two years and he wants to...

September 2014

September 15, 2014

First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage, Then comes…Love: Choosing Sustained Marital Happiness

Dear Shaunti: My wife and I have been married for five years, and I’ve had...

June 2014

June 16, 2014

She Values Your Time More than Your Cash

Dear Shaunti, For years now, my wife has been talking about how great it would...

June 09, 2014

My husband is in over his head – how do I fix him?

Dear Shaunti, I recently read For Women Only and I now realize how important it...

June 02, 2014

Prince Charming Wasn’t a Quarterback: Giving Your Son Confidence (Even though He’s Not Mr. Popular)

Dear Shaunti, My 17 year-old son has a great sense of humor, and is fun...

April 2014

April 21, 2014

Don’t Force Your Sex Life into Hibernation Mode By Choosing Sleep Over Sex

Dear Shaunti, We have young kids, and often I’m so exhausted that I just want...

April 03, 2014

Beyond the Candlelight: Finding Romance In Unusual Places

Dear Shaunti, I wish my husband were more romantic. I love spending time with him—we...

March 2014

March 10, 2014

Independence Can Be Isolating: Find Ways to Show Your Man You Need Him

Dear Shaunti, I'm 31 and single, with a successful career, lots of friends, and an...

March 06, 2014

Good Dates Begin With Good Compliments

Dear Shaunti, I’m in deep soup with my wife, and I don’t know why. We...

March 03, 2014

Why Your Teen Won’t Talk to You

Dear Shaunti, In the last few months, it has gotten so hard for my teenage...

February 2014

February 27, 2014

Worn Out from Worry: How Can I Help My Wife Stop Obsessing?

Dear Shaunti, I love my wife, but it drives me crazy when she obsesses over...

February 24, 2014

Throw Him a Bone When He Picks up the Broom

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I have been getting irritated with each other lately. He...

February 20, 2014

Looking for Approval? Start By Praising Your Provider Husband

Dear Shaunti, I’m a working mom with two kids. We have a comfortable lifestyle, no...

February 17, 2014

Love in the Blender: Appreciating Your Husband’s Gift-Giving Style

Dear Shaunti, I was really looking forward to our second Valentine's Day together, until...

February 13, 2014

Priming Your Wife for Primetime

Dear Shaunti, It seems like I am always the one to initiate sex. Even when...

February 10, 2014

Has My Teen Lost His Faith?

Dear Shaunti, My 15-year old son begins his complaining about going to church on Saturday...

January 2014

January 28, 2014

Want to Fix Your Wife’s Problem? Step 1: Listen. Step 2: Repeat.

Dear Shaunti, My girlfriend tells me all the time that “I don’t want you to...