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June 2017

June 14, 2017

What You Need to Do Before You Have Sex With Your Wife

So, guys, you’ve just had a big fight with your wife and now you’re ready...

July 2015

July 20, 2015

My Lady Is A Loose Cannon

Dear Shaunti, I used to think I was crazy, but these days I feel like...

May 2015

May 11, 2015

Should I Pray For God to Make Me More … Um … Amorous?

Dear Shaunti, Since sex is so important to my husband, and since you say it’s...

March 2015

March 16, 2015

Make-Up Sex: Does it Exist Beyond the Locker Room?

Dear Shaunti, The other day, I got into a big fight with my wife. In...

January 2015

January 05, 2015

Conquer the Calendar Without Crushing Your Kids

Dear Shaunti, My 8th grade son is getting involved in extra-curricular activities for the first...

December 2014

December 22, 2014

The Pressure Behind Your Pricetags: Understanding Your Husband’s Need to Provide

Dear Shaunti, My husband makes a good income, and I always stick to our budget,...

December 15, 2014

The Science of Seduction: Create Chemistry by Getting Physical

Dear Shaunti, My wife is constantly nagging me about taking care of myself, but I...

November 2014

November 17, 2014

My Way or the Highway: Be Careful What You Wish For

Dear Shaunti, My husband says I always want things my way. And he’s right to...

November 03, 2014

Why won’t my wife trust me?

Dear Shaunti, You say that women have worries that pop up in their minds, almost...

September 2014

September 15, 2014

First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage, Then comes…Love: Choosing Sustained Marital Happiness

Dear Shaunti: My wife and I have been married for five years, and I’ve had...

August 2014

August 11, 2014

Prep Time In the Bathroom Could Pay Off In the Bedroom

Dear Shaunti: I used to really look forward to our Friday night date nights, but...

July 2014

July 21, 2014

Be Grateful For His Creativity Rather Than Grumpy About His Clutter

Dear Shaunti, My husband seems to miss the point of giving me “down time.” When...

June 2014

June 16, 2014

She Values Your Time More than Your Cash

Dear Shaunti, For years now, my wife has been talking about how great it would...

May 2014

May 26, 2014

Let Your Husband Unwind Before You Unload

Dear Shaunti, I am SO DONE with my husband’s grumpiness when he gets home from...

May 05, 2014

How Do I Get My Teen to Comply Without Complaining?

Dear Shaunti, I am constantly butting heads with my 14 year-old daughter. Yesterday, she asked...

April 2014

April 17, 2014

Crime and Punishment: When Do Teens Deserve Cell-Phone Restriction?

Dear Shaunti, Undoubtedly, the most effective punishment for my teenage daughter is taking away her...

April 10, 2014

Do We Have to Put Our Conflicts To Bed Before Lights Out?

Dear Shaunti, I’m about to pull my very tired hair out. My wife and I...

March 2014

March 31, 2014

Gain Respect By Being Direct

Dear Shaunti, How do I get my wife to not play games, and just share...

March 27, 2014

The Process of Processing: Give Your Man Some Space

Dear Shaunti, I feel like my husband is a total avoider. When we get into...

March 24, 2014

Lust at First Glance? The Difference in Seeing vs. Gawking

Dear Shaunti, I read in your book that even happily married men struggle with looking...

March 20, 2014

Being the Bigger Person in “The Little Things”: Showing Your Wife that You Care

Dear Shaunti, I work long hours at a power plant, and my wife often sends...

February 2014

February 17, 2014

Love in the Blender: Appreciating Your Husband’s Gift-Giving Style

Dear Shaunti, I was really looking forward to our second Valentine's Day together, until...