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3 Ways to Rebuild Family Bridges Over the Holidays

Last updated on: November 17, 2017 at 7:41 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

You know those college-football bumper magnets that say “A house divided?” Perhaps she supports University of Michigan, he’s a rabid Michigan State guy. Maybe it’s Alabama vs. Auburn. Or USC – UCLA. Regardless, the couple has to learn to get along during football season. I feel like our entire country needs a bumper magnet. A house divided. Republican vs. Democrat. Trump vs. Clinton. And within households and extended families, many have not been getting along. So what do you do over the... Read more

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Processing After a Fight? It’s Different for Men – Here’s Why

Last updated on: November 17, 2017 at 7:41 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Dear Shaunti, I feel like my husband is a total avoider. When we get into an argument, all he wants to do is ignore the situation and escape to the TV room. He doesn’t care that we need to talk it through. What can I do to get him to talk to me? — Wanting more words Dear Wanting more words, Boy, can I feel your pain! In fact, in the research I’ve done with thousands of men and women,... Read more

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Why the “Married Sex” Video Makes Me Furious

Last updated on: November 17, 2017 at 7:41 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Recently, someone asked what I think about the “Married Sex During the Week” video posted on Facebook and chortled about on social media. Have you seen it? Some women think it’s hysterical. I haven’t found a single man who does. And this vast difference points just how clueless we women can be about something that has a huge emotional impact on our husbands. In the video, we watch as a man’s hand reaches out and rubs his wife’s shoulder as... Read more

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The Canadian Video to America That Made Me Cry – And What We Can Learn From It

Last updated on: November 17, 2017 at 7:41 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Have you heard the joke: How does someone from Canada cheat on a test? They secretly write on the palm of their hand, “You can do it!” Our neighbors to the north are an unusually open, honest, nice, kind bunch. No one is perfect, but as a whole Canadians are just a friendly people. And during a brutal season of division in our country and in our relationships, we could learn a thing or two from them. My next book,... Read more

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Wives, See His Anger as a Legitimate Signal of Pain – and Address it with Respect

Last updated on: November 17, 2017 at 7:41 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Every relationship – even the happiest ones! — will have moments of conflict. And how we deal with that conflict can make the relationship stronger…. or really hurt it. Ladies, one of the clearest examples of this is what happens when you’re in a time of “intense marital fellowship” (as a friend of mine puts it), and your man gets really angry. Maybe he confronted you after his office party about how you teased him in front of his colleagues,... Read more

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Men, Do This to Enjoy More Sex in Your Marriage

Last updated on: November 17, 2017 at 7:41 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Men: If you want more sex, give her better anticipation time Although some couples are the opposite in this way, in many cases the husband wishes his wife would be eager more often. (Ladies, if you have the higher drive in your marriage, check out our special article series “When She Has the Stronger Sex Drive.”) Guys, there is a way to solve this, but you have learn something critical about women – and about yourself and your approach. See,... Read more

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Husbands, Get in the Habit of Telling Your Wife This

Last updated on: November 17, 2017 at 7:41 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Every little girl dreams of finding her prince and knowing she is his princess. Husbands, you need to know that even after years of marriage, your wife probably still has some of that little girl inside. A little girl who wants to know she is still your leading lady. And one of the greatest ways you can get that truth to “stick” is by regularly telling your wife she is beautiful! Our surveys found that inside nearly every woman is a deep... Read more

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Two reasons why he walks away from an emotional conversation

Last updated on: November 17, 2017 at 7:41 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

A reader recently asked: “Why does my boyfriend always seem to RUN from a conflict? Well, not so much conflict, as emotion. When things get intense, especially if I start crying, I need resolution –but he’s heading out the door. I try to keep him there, but he says he needs space and leaves. It is hurtful. He’s a great guy, but running when you’re mad seems unhealthy; so I don’t know if I want to move forward with... Read more

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Four things I would tell the woman who called me a “dumb broad”

Last updated on: November 17, 2017 at 7:41 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Dear sister, You say in your angry Amazon review of For Women Only and For Men Only, that a therapist recommended the books to help your failing marriage. Yet the For Women Only research has, in your view, made things worse by pointing out why your husband isn’t happy. (And presumably, why you aren’t, either.) You called me a “dumb broad” and threw the books in the trash. Four things I want you to know: 1. I’m sorry... Read more

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The two most dangerous assumptions women make about relationships

Last updated on: November 17, 2017 at 7:41 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

After I finished speaking at a recent women’s event, a beautiful woman who I will call Sierra came up to ask me a question. “How can I get my husband to do anything to improve our relationship? He has completely shut down on me. He won’t go to counseling, he won’t read any books.” She picked up one of the books on my book table – For Men Only, which is a little book specifically written to help men understand... Read more

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