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October 2017

October 27, 2017

Does Your Kid Make You Feel Like You Can Do Nothing Right?

(a special guest post by Debbie Hitchcock) Last week I felt like everything I did...

October 17, 2017

Motive Matters: Believing the Best of Your Spouse

Dear Shaunti, In one of your books, you say it’s important to believe the best...

September 2017

September 20, 2017

Big Fight? What Every Husband Needs to Know

Men, have you ever found yourself feeling frustrated when, after a fight with your wife,...

August 2017

August 30, 2017

Make Sure Your Man Is One of the 25%

Ladies, do you love your husband, but find yourself regularly irritated by that little thing...

August 28, 2017

The Secret to Living With Purpose Every Day

As a busy analyst, author, and speaker my days are full so it can be...

August 08, 2017

How to Effectively Boost Your Son’s Back-to-School Confidence

I just dropped off my 14-year-old son for the start of new year, at a...

July 2017

July 26, 2017

4 Secrets in Your Man’s Heart (That You Need to Know)

Ladies, if you could improve your relationship with your man by applying a few simple...

July 10, 2017

4 Ways to Spark More Romance in Your Relationship

Ladies, have you been wishing your husband were more Prince Charming and a little less...

June 2017

June 19, 2017

The Secret to Being a Wife He Adores

In the research for For Women Only and The Kindness Challenge, I’ve seen an overlooked,...

June 07, 2017

You Need to Know These 4 Pitfalls for Teenage Boys

Even after years of researching what is in the heart and mind of men and...

April 2017

April 27, 2017

Moms, encourage your sons with three essential phrases.

In more than a decade of research with thousands of men and boys over the...

October 2016

October 03, 2016

Four things I would tell the woman who called me a “dumb broad”

Dear sister, You say in your angry Amazon review of For Women Only and...

September 2016

September 23, 2016

Four reasons your man says “I don’t need help” – even when he does

Ladies, whether it is refusing to admit he needs to go to the doctor, or...

May 2016

May 18, 2016

Highly Happy Marriages Secret #6: Reasonable Expectations

Author note: This is one of a series giving a sneak peek into what I...

April 2016

April 22, 2016

Secret #10 of Highly Happy Marriages: Look Higher

Marriages aren't made or broken through dramatic gestures. It's the small, everyday actions and choices...

March 2016

March 25, 2016

Secret #6 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Have Factual Fantasies

Author Shaunti Feldhahn talks about Secret #6 to a highly happy marriage. The happiest spouses...

March 16, 2016

POLL and RESULTS: What do you think about Kardashian’s nude selfie?

Earlier, I wrote a piece about how this culture is seriously messed up when it...

January 2016

January 29, 2016

Secret #2 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Believe the Best

Marriages aren't made or broken through dramatic gestures. It's the small, everyday actions and choices...

May 2015

May 18, 2015

How Do I Cope With My Super-Sensitive Husband?

Dear Shaunti: My husband is great at many things, but sometimes he struggles with getting...

February 2015

February 09, 2015

If You Don’t Want Your Colleagues to See You as “Mommy,” Stop Airing Your Dirty Laundry

Dear Shaunti, I am back in the workforce after ten years as a stay-at-home mom,...

January 2015

January 26, 2015

Drama-Free Guarantee: Talking to Teenage Boys

Dear Shaunti, My oldest son is having a tough first year of high school –...

August 2014

August 04, 2014

Give Him Reason to Gawk at You So He Doesn’t Gawk at Google

Dear Shaunti: I read your book, For Women Only, and one thing you said scared...

May 2014

May 18, 2014

At a Loss When Your Husband Gets Lost: It’s Not Just About the Directions

Dear Shaunti, It makes me insane when my husband doesn’t ask for directions. Last weekend...

March 2014

March 31, 2014

Gain Respect By Being Direct

Dear Shaunti, How do I get my wife to not play games, and just share...

March 27, 2014

The Process of Processing: Give Your Man Some Space

Dear Shaunti, I feel like my husband is a total avoider. When we get into...

March 24, 2014

Lust at First Glance? The Difference in Seeing vs. Gawking

Dear Shaunti, I read in your book that even happily married men struggle with looking...

March 20, 2014

Being the Bigger Person in “The Little Things”: Showing Your Wife that You Care

Dear Shaunti, I work long hours at a power plant, and my wife often sends...

March 17, 2014

Let’s Get Physical: Health Body, Healthy Marriage

Dear Shaunti, I am definitely not the size I was when I married my husband....

February 2014

February 05, 2014

Should I Hide the Victoria’s Secret Catalog from My Husband?

I know my husband loves me and thinks I’m attractive. So I’m confused and a...

January 2014

January 28, 2014

2 Ways Flex-Time Moms Can Prevent Resentment from Male Co-Workers

Dear Shaunti, I work full-time, have 3 small children and work a flex schedule. This...