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May 2015

May 11, 2015

Should I Pray For God to Make Me More … Um … Amorous?

Dear Shaunti, Since sex is so important to my husband, and since you say it’s...

May 04, 2015

How Often Do Men Need to Have Sex?

Dear Shaunti, You’re the researcher, so please tell me the real answer: How often do...

April 2015

April 20, 2015

2 is better than 1: Facing Conflict Together

Dear Shaunti, I work a lot of hours, and when I’m at home, I don’t...

March 2015

March 30, 2015

Don’t freak out when your man handles an argument….like a man

Dear Shaunti: My husband and I haven’t been married very long, and I am scared...

March 23, 2015

Negative wife? Here’s how to stop the cycle!

Dear Shaunti: My wife and I are making a concerted effort to improve our marriage....

March 16, 2015

Make-Up Sex: Does it Exist Beyond the Locker Room?

Dear Shaunti, The other day, I got into a big fight with my wife. In...

February 2015

February 23, 2015

Face Conflict Head On Even When You Want to Peace-Out

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I never used to fight, but there have been a...

February 16, 2015

What Women Want … In a War of Words

Dear Shaunti, The other day, I got into a huge fight with my wife....

February 03, 2015

Think Before You Ask: The Statements Your Questions Make

Dear Shaunti: I just got married to a great guy who has always loved my...

January 2015

January 20, 2015

Solving Grumpy Guy

Dear Shaunti: My husband is an involved dad, a leader at our church, the type...

January 12, 2015

Gain Lots of Mileage with Little Gestures

Dear Shaunti: I’m married to a wonderful woman whom I dearly love. The problem is,...

December 2014

December 22, 2014

The Pressure Behind Your Pricetags: Understanding Your Husband’s Need to Provide

Dear Shaunti, My husband makes a good income, and I always stick to our budget,...

December 15, 2014

The Science of Seduction: Create Chemistry by Getting Physical

Dear Shaunti, My wife is constantly nagging me about taking care of myself, but I...

November 2014

November 24, 2014

When Sleeping Handsome ruins a date night

Dear Shaunti: I’m so angry with my husband that I could spit. Every now and...

November 17, 2014

My Way or the Highway: Be Careful What You Wish For

Dear Shaunti, My husband says I always want things my way. And he’s right to...

November 11, 2014

Check Yourself as a Mate: Being a Wife Instead of a Boss

Dear Shaunti, My husband runs his own construction business, and even though he’s in charge...

November 03, 2014

Why won’t my wife trust me?

Dear Shaunti, You say that women have worries that pop up in their minds, almost...

October 2014

October 06, 2014

Re-Walking Down the Aisle: Overcoming Second-Marriage Skepticism

Dear Shaunti, I’ve been dating a wonderful man for two years and he wants to...

September 2014

September 15, 2014

First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage, Then comes…Love: Choosing Sustained Marital Happiness

Dear Shaunti: My wife and I have been married for five years, and I’ve had...

August 2014

August 25, 2014

Connection Resurrection: Bringing Back The Spark

Dear Shaunti: I’ve been married for 15 years, and my wife is a great mom,...

August 18, 2014

How Do I Respect My Husband When He Makes So Many Mistakes?

Dear Shaunti, I really struggle with the whole ‘respect your husband’ thing you talk about...

August 11, 2014

Prep Time In the Bathroom Could Pay Off In the Bedroom

Dear Shaunti: I used to really look forward to our Friday night date nights, but...

August 04, 2014

Give Him Reason to Gawk at You So He Doesn’t Gawk at Google

Dear Shaunti: I read your book, For Women Only, and one thing you said scared...

July 2014

July 21, 2014

Be Grateful For His Creativity Rather Than Grumpy About His Clutter

Dear Shaunti, My husband seems to miss the point of giving me “down time.” When...

July 07, 2014

Sticks and Stones: Your Words Can Build (or Demolish) Your Husband’s Security

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I have been married only three months – and I’ll...

June 2014

June 16, 2014

She Values Your Time More than Your Cash

Dear Shaunti, For years now, my wife has been talking about how great it would...

June 09, 2014

My husband is in over his head – how do I fix him?

Dear Shaunti, I recently read For Women Only and I now realize how important it...

May 2014

May 26, 2014

Let Your Husband Unwind Before You Unload

Dear Shaunti, I am SO DONE with my husband’s grumpiness when he gets home from...

April 2014

April 21, 2014

Don’t Force Your Sex Life into Hibernation Mode By Choosing Sleep Over Sex

Dear Shaunti, We have young kids, and often I’m so exhausted that I just want...

April 10, 2014

Do We Have to Put Our Conflicts To Bed Before Lights Out?

Dear Shaunti, I’m about to pull my very tired hair out. My wife and I...