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March 2016

March 02, 2016

3 Crucial Facts You Really Need To Know About A Man’s Brain

The funniest movie moment I saw last summer comes at the very end of Inside Out, as...

February 2016

February 25, 2016

Why not take the test drive? – Part 2 (More on cohabitation, getting engaged, and getting committed)

Last week, I posted an article, "Why not take the test drive? The case against cohabitation,"...

February 15, 2016

Why not take the test drive? The case against cohabitation

I’m a pastor who works with young couples. As you know, most people live together...

February 12, 2016

Secret #4 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Keep Score

Marriages aren't made or broken through dramatic gestures. It's the small, everyday actions and choices...

February 10, 2016

Women: Three phrases to never say to your husband

Ladies, if there were a reality TV show like “What NOT to Wear,” but for...

February 05, 2016

Secret #3 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Go to Bed Mad- Why Sleeping on it Might Be Smarter After All

Marriages aren't made or broken through dramatic gestures. It's the small, everyday actions and choices...

February 04, 2016

Guys: 3 ways to listen well to your wife

Men, finish this sentence. Your wife is upset and says “I don’t want you to...

January 2016

January 19, 2016

Men: Four phrases that make you a hero to your wife

Guys, I know from the For Men Only research that you want to make your wife...

January 14, 2016

Secret #1 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Little Is Big

Marriages aren't made or broken through dramatic gestures. It's the small, everyday actions and choices...

November 2015

November 25, 2015

Is your wife worried about something? 3 things to NEVER say.

1. "Just don’t think about it.” Women have no idea what that means. If...

November 17, 2015

How do I convince my wife to let me see her body?

Dear Shaunti, OK, awkward question but here goes: how can I convince my wife to...

November 12, 2015

Is your wife asking, “Are we okay?” 4 triggers that make her feel insecure in your relationship

1. Conflict. For most guys, conflict is just conflict; it is fairly easy to put...

November 02, 2015

Believing the Best Isn’t Letting Him Off the Hook

Dear Shaunti, In one of your books, you say it’s important to believe the best...

October 2015

October 27, 2015

Diamond Disappointment: If the ring is cheap, does it mean his feelings are too?

The day my boyfriend asked me to marry him was one of the happiest days...

October 21, 2015

Your Husband Wants Sex? 3 Things He’s Not Saying Out Loud

Welcome to the weekly list at Ask Shaunti! Each Wednesday, join me as I share...

October 19, 2015

When Talking Politics with your Mate, Disarm and Listen

Dear Shaunti, I can’t wait until the presidential election is over. My husband and I...

October 13, 2015

Kick Those Other Gals Out of His Head

Dear Shaunti, I recently heard you speak at a conference, and I just finished reading...

October 07, 2015

Realistic Tips for Reeling Him Back In

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I have been married 22 years and I love him,...

September 2015

September 22, 2015

Time to Hang up the Hurt, Hang out Together, and Hang On

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I have been married for 20 years. I still care...

August 2015

August 31, 2015

Actions Don’t Always Speak Louder than Words: How Should You Affirm Your Wife?

Dear Shaunti, I’m in hot water. My wife is the most beautiful, amazing woman I...

August 17, 2015

I’m Unhealthy and My Wife is Unhappy

Dear Shaunti, Things haven’t been great between me and my wife the past few months....

August 10, 2015

Lackluster Sex Life? Be a Flirt!

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I were both pretty sexually inexperienced when we first got...

August 03, 2015

Does being “all-in” mean not having boundaries?

Dear Shaunti, I just finished your book The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages, and...

July 2015

July 20, 2015

My Lady Is A Loose Cannon

Dear Shaunti, I used to think I was crazy, but these days I feel like...

July 13, 2015

Spill Out Your Secrets To Fill Up Your Marriage

Dear Shaunti, Just before I got married, my grandmother presented me with a check –...

July 06, 2015

Did Tiger Woods and Lindsey Vonn REALLY break up because of “time?”

View image | gettyimages.com Dear Shaunti, My wife and I got into a “discussion” the...

June 2015

June 29, 2015

I trusted him and he disappointed me

Dear Shaunti, You and a lot of others talk about how much men need to...

June 22, 2015

Complaining kills, but discussion heals

Dear Shaunti, I know you’re a researcher, but I think most marriage researchers are off...

June 10, 2015

Should I read my wife’s texts?

Dear Shaunti, My wife is the best person I know; she’s funny, warm, affectionate, and...

June 01, 2015

Don’t Let “Facebook Fantasies” Ruin Your View Of Your Spouse

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I have started arguing a lot about how much I...