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June 2015

June 22, 2015

Complaining kills, but discussion heals

Dear Shaunti, I know you’re a researcher, but I think most marriage researchers are off...

June 15, 2015

How do I deflate my teenage son’s oversized ego and curb the cockiness?

Dear Shaunti, I’m a single mom to two teenage boys, and because their dad was...

June 10, 2015

Should I read my wife’s texts?

Dear Shaunti, My wife is the best person I know; she’s funny, warm, affectionate, and...

June 01, 2015

Don’t Let “Facebook Fantasies” Ruin Your View Of Your Spouse

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I have started arguing a lot about how much I...

May 2015

May 18, 2015

How Do I Cope With My Super-Sensitive Husband?

Dear Shaunti: My husband is great at many things, but sometimes he struggles with getting...

May 11, 2015

Should I Pray For God to Make Me More … Um … Amorous?

Dear Shaunti, Since sex is so important to my husband, and since you say it’s...

May 04, 2015

How Often Do Men Need to Have Sex?

Dear Shaunti, You’re the researcher, so please tell me the real answer: How often do...

April 2015

April 27, 2015

When State Says Pot is OK, How Do I Convince My Child It Isn’t?

Dear Shaunti, We live in Colorado, where pot is now visible on every corner. For...

April 20, 2015

2 is better than 1: Facing Conflict Together

Dear Shaunti, I work a lot of hours, and when I’m at home, I don’t...

April 13, 2015

How Can I Get My Teen to STOP Relying on Social Media So Much?

Dear Shaunti, My kids’ obsession with Instagram and other social media has gotten to ridiculous...

March 2015

March 30, 2015

Don’t freak out when your man handles an argument….like a man

Dear Shaunti: My husband and I haven’t been married very long, and I am scared...

March 23, 2015

Negative wife? Here’s how to stop the cycle!

Dear Shaunti: My wife and I are making a concerted effort to improve our marriage....

March 16, 2015

Make-Up Sex: Does it Exist Beyond the Locker Room?

Dear Shaunti, The other day, I got into a big fight with my wife. In...

March 09, 2015

Gain More Pull With Your Kids By Pushing Less

Dear Shaunti, My 13-year-old daughter rocks at math and science. She is at the top...

March 02, 2015

Advice: My Male Co-Workers Argued with Me While I was Performing Surgery

Dear Shaunti: As the new medical director at a large hospital and top surgeon, I...

February 2015

February 23, 2015

Face Conflict Head On Even When You Want to Peace-Out

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I never used to fight, but there have been a...

February 16, 2015

What Women Want … In a War of Words

Dear Shaunti, The other day, I got into a huge fight with my wife....

February 09, 2015

If You Don’t Want Your Colleagues to See You as “Mommy,” Stop Airing Your Dirty Laundry

Dear Shaunti, I am back in the workforce after ten years as a stay-at-home mom,...

February 03, 2015

Think Before You Ask: The Statements Your Questions Make

Dear Shaunti: I just got married to a great guy who has always loved my...

January 2015

January 26, 2015

Drama-Free Guarantee: Talking to Teenage Boys

Dear Shaunti, My oldest son is having a tough first year of high school –...

January 20, 2015

Solving Grumpy Guy

Dear Shaunti: My husband is an involved dad, a leader at our church, the type...

January 12, 2015

Gain Lots of Mileage with Little Gestures

Dear Shaunti: I’m married to a wonderful woman whom I dearly love. The problem is,...

January 05, 2015

Conquer the Calendar Without Crushing Your Kids

Dear Shaunti, My 8th grade son is getting involved in extra-curricular activities for the first...

December 2014

December 29, 2014

Tell Your Drama to Your Mama (or Your Girlfriends)

Dear Shaunti: I’m always balancing my roles as a mom, wife and businesswoman, but I...

December 22, 2014

The Pressure Behind Your Pricetags: Understanding Your Husband’s Need to Provide

Dear Shaunti, My husband makes a good income, and I always stick to our budget,...

December 15, 2014

The Science of Seduction: Create Chemistry by Getting Physical

Dear Shaunti, My wife is constantly nagging me about taking care of myself, but I...

December 08, 2014

His Temper May Be Fiery, But Your Criticism Is Explosive Fuel

Dear Shaunti: My husband has an anger problem, and I don’t know how to handle...

December 01, 2014

My Eyes are Up Here: Can I Be Seen as Pretty AND Professional?

Dear Shaunti: I am a female attorney, age 29, working at a large and prestigious...

November 2014

November 24, 2014

When Sleeping Handsome ruins a date night

Dear Shaunti: I’m so angry with my husband that I could spit. Every now and...

November 17, 2014

My Way or the Highway: Be Careful What You Wish For

Dear Shaunti, My husband says I always want things my way. And he’s right to...