Want a happy marriage? 3 Ways to Nix All Marriage Negativity

Last updated on: November 17, 2017 at 7:40 pm by Shaunti Feldhahn

Want a happy marriage? 3 Ways to Nix All Marriage Negativity 2017-11-17T19:40:51+00:00 Shaunti Feldhahn

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There’s a couple I know who just seems to have their act together. They’re a joy to be around and it’s obvious that they genuinely like being around each other, too! No, they’re not perfect (they have kids and jobs and, ahem, they’re human!) but their drama seems to be kept at a minimum. Over coffee one day, I asked my friend what her secret was and you know what she said? She and her husband have an understanding in their marriage: they nip negativity in the bud.

In my research with more than 1,000 couples for The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages, I discovered that the happiest couples have a very important quality in common: they intentionally keep negativity out of their marriage by choosing what they feel about their spouse. They actually choose to feel positively rather than to dwell on whatever could make them annoyed, angry or frustrated!

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If you want a similarly happy marriage, here are 3 tips for kicking that negativity to the curb (even when we’re annoyed!):

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