4 Secrets in Your Man’s Heart (That You Need to Know)

Last updated on: November 17, 2017 at 7:40 pm by Shaunti Feldhahn

4 Secrets in Your Man’s Heart (That You Need to Know) 2017-11-17T19:40:57+00:00 Shaunti Feldhahn

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Secret #3: The reason he needs to hear affirmation is that he probably doesn’t see it the way you would

Although there are exceptions to this, many men don’t pick up on “vibes” or body language in the same way many women do. So he truly may have no clue how you feel about something he did. He needs to hear your words of affirmation telling him he’s good enough. He needs to hear how proud you are of his work or a simple “thank you” for his efforts. He needs to know that you’re pleased with what he did. Don’t leave it to chance for him to try to figure it out – actually tell him.

As I’m speaking at women’s events, I often get the question, “But, shouldn’t he “just know” that I think he’s doing a great job? Why should I have to tell him?” Sure, he may intellectually “know,” down deep, that you appreciate him – but he still deeply needs to hear you saying it. Wouldn’t you hate it if your man rarely hugged you or rarely told you he loved you because, well, after all, you already know he does?

Your words of affirmation encourage him and keep him going. They reassure that inner voice asking “Am I good enough?” Just like you want to hear, “you’re beautiful and I love you,” he wants to hear those words that signal, “I noticed what you did and it was good.”

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