3 Steps to Seeing How Mean You Really Are

Last updated on: November 17, 2017 at 7:41 pm by Shaunti Feldhahn

3 Steps to Seeing How Mean You Really Are 2017-11-17T19:41:02+00:00 Shaunti Feldhahn

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STEP THREE: For those few days, every time you catch yourself saying something negative, quickly stop and think, How could I have said / done that differently, so it wasn’t negative? You realized you got exasperated with the kids because they were too slow to turn off their electronics and help you set the table. So after you blow it, you stop and think, *I could have calmly said, ‘Kids, you probably didn’t intend to make me do all the work, but since I had to set the table without you, no more electronics today or tomorrow.” (*Not saying anything negative doesn’t mean you can’t give true discipline where it is needed! You just can’t do it negatively!) The cool thing about this exercise, is that as you think about the ‘kind version’ of what you just said, you’ll start actually doing that kind version.

Seriously. Try it. You’ve got nothing to lose but a whole bunch of meanness you didn’t know you had.

Want to know how to be kind, when you really don’t want to be? My research uncovered three daily actions that will transform your relationships – and you. Check out The Kindness Challenge, now available!

Shaunti Feldhahn loves sharing eye-opening information that helps people thrive in life and relationships. She herself started out with a Harvard graduate degree and Wall Street credentials but no clue about life. After an unexpected shift into relationship research for average, clueless people like her, she now is a popular speaker and author of best-selling books about men, women and relationships. (Including For Women Only, For Men Only, and the groundbreaking The Good News About Marriage).

Her newest book, The Kindness Challenge demonstrates that kindness is the answer to pretty much every life problem, and is sparking a much-needed movement of kindness across the country. Visit www.shaunti.com for more.

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