Buddhist Catholic Contemplative Evangelical General Christian Hindu Jewish Latter-day Saint Muslim New Visions Progressive Christian

Beliefs

Topics

Columnists

Resource Library

Research Tools

Video

Podcasts

Thought Readers

Faith In Media Tracker

Newsletters

Ad-Free & Subscriber Log-In Subscription Support

Follow Patheos

Ellen Debenport

Home
New Visions
In Violent Clashes, Who Is Suffering?

In Violent Clashes, Who Is Suffering?

Last updated on: June 7, 2016 at 6:21 pm by Ellen Debenport

In Violent Clashes, Who Is Suffering? 2016-06-07T18:21:42-05:00 Ellen Debenport

LOGO Patheos Explore the world's faith through different perspectives on religion and spirituality! Patheos has the views of the prevalent religions and spiritualities of the world.

Down With This Sort of Thing!! protest sign

by Graham Richardson flickr

Watching the political protesters beat each other up on television, I am reminded of a line from author Parker Palmer:

“Violence is what happens when we don’t know what else to do with our suffering.”

When feelings become too much to handle – and I believe many of us never had good role models for how to deal with anger, fear or despair – we cope by turning the energy either inward or outward.

When it’s turned inward, it can show up as depression, overeating or substance abuse.

When it’s turned outward, it can take the form of racism, sexism or homophobia that becomes physically violent.

But the examples are not always so dramatic.

Suffering turned inward might result in sleepwalking through life without risking an intense feeling.

Suffering focused outwardly might reveal itself as criticizing or diminishing other people. Or gathering in big groups with placards to denounce them.

DEMANDS FOR CHANGE

What is the suffering being carried by these political protesters?

We can’t know their personal demons, of course, but as a group, they seem to fear what we all fear: that their comfortable lives will be forcibly changed.

That’s the irony of this political season. Voters are clamoring for what they call change, but only specific changes are acceptable and not others.

They tell pollsters the country is on the wrong track but disagree about what would constitute a better track.

Some of them think Donald Trump would save the day; others believe he would be a disaster. Same for Hillary Clinton. And one cohort is holding out for Bernie Sanders.

On all sides, protesters would probably insist something has been taken from them, and they want it back. They believe they might lose some perceived freedom or ideal that the “other side” would happily destroy.

You know the hot buttons – one group says the government is curtailing gun rights, another says it’s limiting abortion rights. One group says Muslims are the problem, another says racists are the problem.

I’m not taking sides here. In fact, I’m pointing out that suffering is the same all around. They (or we?) are angry at what has already changed and afraid more will change.

It will, of course. Because it always does. Life as we know it changes. Sometimes we believe it’s for the better, and sometimes it appears to be worse.

And is it my imagination, or are the changes in our world happening faster and faster?

HOW TO HANDLE SUFFERING

I would go out and protest if I thought it would do any good. Maybe I’ve become an old fogey, but I think voting is more powerful.

(My voting advice? Choose the candidate you believe will best handle the unforeseen. Think about George W. Bush. It didn’t matter what he had promised in the campaign. His presidency was defined by his response to 9-11.)

As this campaign drags on – and the silly season of summer is just beginning! – it’s easy to become mired in our suffering.

How can we handle it without doing violence to ourselves or others?

Parker Palmer is a prolific author, activist and Quaker who thinks deeply about spirituality and public life and who founded the Center for Courage and Renewal.

In a commencement speech last year, he spoke about violence as an expression of suffering, and actually encouraged the graduates to practice having their hearts broken.

We might want to consider it, too.

Here’s what Mr. Palmer said:

The good news is that suffering can be transformed into something that brings life, not death. It happens every day. I know many people who’ve suffered the loss of the dearest person in their lives. At first, they go into deep grief, certain that their lives will never again be worth living. But then they slowly awaken to the fact that — not in spite of their loss but because of it — they’ve become bigger, more compassionate people, with more capacity of heart to take in other people’s sorrows and joys.

These are broken-hearted people — but their hearts have been broken open rather than broken apart. So every day, exercise your heart by taking in life’s pains and joys. That kind of exercise will make your heart supple, so that when it breaks — which it surely will — it will break not into a fragment grenade, but into a greater capacity for love.

presidential campaign

suffering

violence

Previous Post

May 31, 2016

What Do Your Friends See in You?

Next Post

June 14, 2016 How Will You Serve the World?

Browse Our Archives

Select a Category Bible coping with life create your reality current events death divine within nature of God soul purpose spiritual laws Uncategorized

Select a Month January 2017 December 2016 November 2016 October 2016 September 2016 August 2016 July 2016 June 2016 May 2016 April 2016 March 2016 February 2016 January 2016

TAKE THE

Religious Wisdom Quiz

According to Jesus, who will inherit the earth?

Select your answer to see how you score.

The strong The wise The rich The meek