The Experience of Conversion

Last updated on: July 31, 2014 at 11:52 am by David Mills

The Experience of Conversion 2014-07-31T11:52:50-04:00 David Mills

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One kind of would-be convert, as I wrote in Long’s Commitments a couple of days ago, is drawn to aspects of the Catholic Church but not exactly to Catholicism. Over time he may develop an interest in Catholicism and move closer and then into the Church, or he may settle into a kind of respectful or affectionate fellow-travelling, or he may just lose interest, or he may repudiate the whole thing in reaction, though this last seems to happen rarely.

It’s a hard difference to explain. I tried to get at it in “The Anatomy of Conversion,” published four years ago in the New Oxford Review. (It’s behind their paywall.) Here’s the beginning of the essay, which describes the process of coming to be drawn to Catholicism, which may say something about the difference between the two attractions.

Think of falling in love. You begin by finding this girl’s eyes or laugh or kindness attractive, and perhaps not much more attractive than another’s, but as you get to know her and share some parts of your lives, one day you realize that you find her attractive in a way you cannot reduce to a liking for the different aspects of her appearance, personality, and character. She changes (to take my own case) from a girl with a heart-melting shy smile and gorgeous blue eyes sitting up front in the choir to Hope.

What you now think of her begins to affect how you see her, especially the aspects of her personality or character that are or might be flaws. What you had taken for impatience you now know to be enthusiasm, and what had seemed a self-centered disregard for others’ feelings you now see as single-mindedness.

What really are flaws you understand as the blemishes one invariably has in a fallen world, but you believe that they are, so to speak, accidents and not substance. In this you are not giving her the benefit of the doubt, as if the reality were disputable, but seeing her with a charity that lets you see her real beauty, marred but not erased or covered by her flaws. (If you are blessed, she sees you in the same way.)

But in the middle of this romantic movement from attraction to love, you ask many questions and even offer many objections: Do we agree on the fundamental things? Does she share my commitment to Christ and His Church? Would I care for her if she didn’t have that heart-melting smile? Why does she do this? Why in the world does she think that? How could she possibly believe those things?

This is the same movement of mind and heart the average convert experiences on his way into the Catholic Church. People find themselves drawn to the Catholic Church because something in her attracts them, like the order of the liturgy or the depth of the theology. When the romance begins to feel as if it might develop into commitment, they begin to ask questions and pose objections. If they persevere, they come to love the Church, and the way they ask the questions, and the questions they ask, change. They move from debating the Church to discovering the Church.

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